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writes:the guy im currently with knows i do not like his ex-girlfriend at all. she and i have this history and its not a great one. i recently noticed that he always tells me when she calls and what they talk about. and i never ask him to do so. when i ask him why he's telling me he just says i dont know. i once jokingly told him to stop, but he still tells me. so i was just wondering if any of you guys have an idea why he does it? its not like it upsets me or anything really, i just find it to be random..
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reader, rhythmandblues2  + ♥, writes (13 July 2009):
 I don't know the guy so wouldn't accurately be able to tell you why he is telling you. Here are some possibilities, but the best thing to do is to ask him and tell him I don't know is not an acceptable answer.
He is trying to make you jealous
Guys like to gossip and talk about people you both know
He doesn't want you hearing from someone else first that
he is talking to her.
He is sort of asking for your permission to talk to her or to see your reaction
My question to you is, why do you think he needs to be talking to his ex so often? How do you feel about that?
Do you find it disrespectful, weird, suspicious or annoying, or jealous? Tell him if you don't like it, don't make him guess what your feelings are about it.
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reader, lovingit +, writes (13 July 2009):
personally I would be glad that my bf told me why would u want him tlking to someone u dnt like behind ur back I dnt necessarily think that he has feelings for her or else he wouldnt tell u when he tlks to her so I think u should be happy that he is being honest and telling you
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reader, we-are-nowhere  +, writes (13 July 2009):
 i think it is out of respect for yo and your relation , my bf does the same the difference is i want him to . would you rather have them talking and you not knowing about it ! i think he just doesnt want to hiurt you or hide anything from you and espcially when it comes to exs' girls get a little worried and nut so i think it is a good thing really
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (13 July 2009):
 Most likely because he knows the two of you don't like each other, he wants to be SURE that you know, when they talk and what about, I guess so you won't think he is talking to her behind your back.
However I do believe when a guy talks A LOT about another women there can be trouble brewing.
Obviously it upsets you even it if is minor or you wouldn't post the question on here.
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reader, dddddddd  +, writes (13 July 2009):
It isn't random at all. It is open and decent of him. He probably tells you out of honestly and openess as he would rather tell you than you not know about it. I think that is really a good thing!
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reader, xcharlottex  +, writes (13 July 2009):
he might feel guilty if he's talking to her and not telling you about it, it's a pretty silly thing to be guilty about. If he's the type to play games however, he could be trying to make you jealous.
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reader, angelsrock18 +, writes (13 July 2009):
Maybe he tell's you so you don't accuse him of anything.
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