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Why does boyfriend keep me a secret from his family?

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Question - (23 March 2011) 5 Answers - (Newest, 24 March 2011)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Ive being in a relationship for the last 5 months. This isnt an easy relationship as I dont get why my bf never asks me to meet his family. We live really close to each other but he never asks me round his house unless there no one there. This guy is 26, why would he want to keep me a secret. I know he doesnt have the nicest of families but that no excuse.

Last night brought it home to me as I text him twice and never heard anything from him all day till half 9.

If he had an accident or something happened to him how would I find out as they dont know I exisist.

Do you think I should say something to him about this?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2011):

He defo not married or seeing someone else, I know that for sure. He talks about his family, I even know most of his family. Not to speak too, but we live in a small village and I cant understand how they have'nt found out if im honest. Like I say Im not desperate to meet them as they are not the nicest of people, I think they would have an issue with the age difference but he is 26 and shouldnt be ashamed of me as I am a nice girl and come from a really nice family. I just dont know if i should say something or leave it for a while?

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A female reader, shanana United States +, writes (23 March 2011):

Is it possible he's married?

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A female reader, Ne'cee +, writes (23 March 2011):

Ne'cee agony auntYes, this is strange. It could be a few things. Either he is not looking to get too serious in your relationship, he has a girlfriend that has already met the family, or he just doesnt want people to know about you. But you should really address this before its 5 years and youre still asking to meet the family.

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A male reader, Drew21 Canada +, writes (23 March 2011):

Drew21 agony auntEh, this is personal experience here: I can tell you that as a guy, i pretty much never introduced my family to my girlfriends until it was incredibly serious. I just was never comfortable talking to them about the girls in my life.

I think guys are just slower to react to this sort of stuff then girls are. I know i actually made one girl cry when, after about 4 months she said she wanted to introduce me to her family and i hesitated. She claimed she didn't realize i didn't view the relationship as being as "serious" as she did.

Course, on the flip side I know a guy who was 30 and dating a 19 year old, and he didn't want to introduce his family to her because he was embarassed he was dating someone so young.

I would say this is an issue that you probably COULD bring up with him, just as a curiosity.

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A female reader, amazingk United States +, writes (23 March 2011):

amazingk agony auntThere are many reasons he may be keeping you a secret for now. The best possible reason could be that it may be his personal policy to only introduce a woman to his family when it has the real potential to become something serious, possibly leading to marriage. I don't think you should be worried at five months into a relationship.

However, if a year or more goes by and he still hasn't let anyone know you exist, there's probably several not so great reasons why, anywhere from him being somewhat ashamed of you, not seeing a real future with you, or the worst, he's already got a wife/girlfriend, and you were made to be his little side dish without your knowledge or permission.

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