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Why do some girls want to become porn stars?

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Question - (27 February 2009) 12 Answers - (Newest, 4 November 2010)
A female age 36-40, anonymous writes:

why do some girls want to be porn stars .why can't they get office jobs?

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A female reader, lucia United States +, writes (4 November 2010):

Because most of the women in the adult industry were violated sexually previously in their life. Their boundaries were violated and pushed without their consent. new boundaries were formed, looser boundaries depending on how violated they had been.

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A female reader, cristina05 Canada +, writes (1 March 2010):

well for doing that kinda work for 6 months,for me personally, i first started doing it and i kinda liked it. some men i wanted to have sex with and others not really. sure the money is kinda good,but i think its only good money when u were respected and enjoying it to earn that money.i was single at that time, so i was not hurting anyone but only myself. and its not eazy money its hard and it has its good and bad sides just like any other job.some people can handle that kind of work, its acting,pretending,its creative and its kinda fun sometimes. i could never survive in a office, ive done many other jobs and quit about a month after and porn was the only job i liked doing more than any other job.to me it wasnt about the attention,i simply liked the sex.if this is how i was gonna have pleasure ,great,to also get paid for it is even better.i then met someone and it reminded me about what it was to be in a relationship,loved,cared for and what it was like to have a boyfriend. when the relathionship got serious, thats when i quit. i said to myself sure its fun and good money but u cant do this for the rest of your life,i guess i have to find myself a normal job since doing porn was my double life. after i quit,i was relieved, i was not living the double life, i could then tell people the truth about where i was really going,less lying to my family...what i can say from my experience is that some people are naturally good at doing things then others,some people like to work sitting down while others like to do physical things.porn was just like any other job,in the end its all about if you like it or not, if its not becuz u like sex chances are your not gonna like it.and if you are gonna get urself into this kinda work always respect yourself, never let anyone treat you bad cuz some will,and respect ur body,get tested and the others should get tested too if ur gonna be having intercourse without condoms.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2009):

A random Question... some girls money etc and all the reasons under the sun or excuses like laziness ! Some girls it is a preference and there are some girls who a desperate... the reason are endless but putting enviormental factors behind like money housing etc ...some girls are insecure growing up and this so called talent makes them confident and in control it makes them rebel from the social normality and they get much satisfaction from it away from the sex !

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A male reader, SydLicious United States +, writes (24 June 2009):

Because some girls are just dumb and materialistic. if they cant get something from some one they will do what ever it takes to get it, not caring about any body but themselves. They disregard their families and the people who care for them all for their selfishness.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2009):

Why do some girls do office work, why don't they want to be porn stars. Everyone is different, different talents, ambitions and desires. If pornography is legal in a country, then I can't see the problem, it's a job with good sides and bad sides, just like all other work.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2009):

Why not ask why some people choose to be reality stars and expose their whole lives at the whim of editors and producers instead of getting a regular job?

That said, as someone who had been in the profession, I'll answer:

1) When I ran my own website, it was great being my own boss. No more getting up the crack of dawn to go to work for the investment banking firm (yeah, there are some of us who HAD office jobs... good ones). I could wake up late and there was something lovely about working from home when everyone else had to trudge through the snow and rain while i worked in my pajamas. On the other hand, I actually RAN a website instead of just being a model (there is a hierachy in these things), so I looked at it as running a business as opposed to being in porn, per se.

2) I'm a bit of an exhibitionist, so I liked showing off my body. If you got it, flaunt it, as they say. And get paid for it. Which leads to...

3) The money. When it was good, it was very VERY good.

4) (Not so much me, but my former "collegues"): Some people can't do office jobs. Lack of education, perhaps, or whatever you want to call it, but it was a good, easy way to make a living.

5) (Again, a little of me, but more my "collegues"): Ego-feeding. There is something empowering about all those men looking at your photos/videos and getting horny.

Now, for other reasons (the downside of it all), I got out. I got sick and tired of the whole thing and went and got (ironically enough) an office job. Which I know have new appreciation for and love with every fiber of my being (except for the commute... still hate that). I don't have anything against the industry (I still have friends who do it), but there's not enough money in the world to make me go back and I feel better now that I'm out of it. I'd rather be nice and anonymous now.

But I did tell guys upfront (once I began dating post-website) what I used to do (if they have an issue with it, better to know before we both got too attached) and I did lose a couple of guys because of my past. But the one I'm seeing now, I told him, even showed him a magazine I was in and its all good.

So, there's your answer from someone who did choose to be a "porn star." Although I never thought of myself as a star.

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A male reader, tux United States +, writes (27 February 2009):

tux agony auntHeck I wish I could become a pornstar and whore out my body.. beats actually working hard for the money I make, but then again... There's a downside I guess of being a pornstar too, but more money involved. Everyone has their price.

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A female reader, aunty_rach United Kingdom +, writes (27 February 2009):

not everyone wants to work in an office. the thought of that bores me. i can't think of anything worse. but that's just me. that's why i work in tv. anyway as for the porn stars.it's probably because they get a load of money for simply having sex. they are all STD tested every few months, so it's not a disgusting job or anything. i don't see anything wrong with porn, i don't buy it, but if girls want to star in these movies then let them, if that's what makes them happy. why be in a job that you hate?

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A female reader, XxAnGelXxx United Kingdom +, writes (27 February 2009):

XxAnGelXxx agony auntMay as well get a job doing something you enjoy huh? Lol

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A female reader, TasteofIndia United States + , writes (27 February 2009):

TasteofIndia agony auntPorn pays a TON more for 3 hours of very little work.

Office, you're being treated like a rat, working 6 hours a day and getting paid squat.

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A female reader, k_c100 United Kingdom +, writes (27 February 2009):

k_c100 agony auntThis sounds like another joke question. But just in case someone actually thinks like this then an answer for you:

Not everyone has to work in an office, some people find office jobs dull. There should be no prejudice held against anyone just because of the job they do. If it is their choice and they are happy and making good money for it then good for them.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2009):

Ha cos they are self obsessed and ignorant in thinking that you become as rich as jordan straight away! She is a very very very very rare specimen who has gained millions! It's a hard life for the rest

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