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Why do romantic novels make it seem like all women achieve vaginal orgasms?

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Question - (15 October 2012) 6 Answers - (Newest, 16 October 2012)
A female Malawi age 30-35, anonymous writes:

We all know that a tiny fraction of women achieve a "vaginal" orgasm. Then why do 90% of romantic novels talk of this kind of orgasm as if its only natural for a woman to achieve it? And they always talk of "reaching the heights together" bulls**t. Im totally pissed at how unrealistic these f****d up books are, yet i keep reading them. My bf gives me orgasms and im sure he's a good lover but these books simply overrate sex, or the human body and feelings. Just needed to vent.

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A female reader, Gabrielle Stoker United States +, writes (16 October 2012):

Gabrielle Stoker agony auntBecuase they are romantic novels - by definition, escapist fantasy. If you want to read a realistic account of middle-class married life, try "Madame Bovary", followed by "Middlemarch". No sex, lots of realism. Also, much better reads.

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A male reader, ChaseTerrier United States +, writes (16 October 2012):

It's fiction...what do you expect? If you want non-fiction, than read non-fiction. Or read fiction that is written by a better author.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2012):

Because how provocative would a book be if they explained sex as "And he touched her how she liked to be touched making her moan, he let out a heavenly sigh of release while she turned over and secretly hated her body for not meeting him there" A bit bloody depresssing?!

Books are a fantasty, an escape. i.e. Not real.

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A female reader, person12345 United States +, writes (15 October 2012):

person12345 agony auntBecause a lot of women are under pressure to have vaginal orgasms and it's likely to be a turn-on to think that with the right guy, it would be possible. I agree with Yos that it's more possible to have them (sort of, vaginal orgasms don't exist but orgasms from penetration do) than it seems, however, it's a lot of work. I "taught" myself to do it and it's so much effort and puts a lot of strain on my partner to last that it's just not worth it 99% of the time.

Romance novels are all fake, everything about them, and they perpetuate lies about sex, romance, men and women. If they make you so upset, read something else.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (15 October 2012):

Honeypie agony auntBecause sex sells.

It's as simple as that. If the books were about average looking men who gave mediocre sex, I bet you they wouldn't sell as well as they do.

Romance novels are fiction. They are a fantasy. Unrealistic fantasies as best, maybe that is why some women like then. If you have a need for "escapism" why not have pleasant escapism? It makes more sense.

Maybe you need to find a different genre?

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A male reader, Yos Netherlands +, writes (15 October 2012):

Yos agony aunt"Im totally pissed at how unrealistic these f****d up books are, yet i keep reading them."

Well there's your problem. How about reading books that are realistic instead? Most romantic novels are very much fantasy and are there to deliberately to create an unrealistic view of the world that we can lose ourselves in.

You could also buy a book on techniques to achieve vaginal orgasm. Certainly not all women can have them, but in my experience more can than are aware of and a lot comes down to technique, as well as having a good intimate connection too of course.

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