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reader, Godchild  +, writes (1 February 2011):
What he did was wrong. Honesty would have been best. One year and he moved her in. im so sorry he did this to you
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reader, Godchild +, writes (31 January 2011):
What he did was wrong. Honesty would have been best. One year and he moved her in. im so sorry he did this to you
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2011): Any cheat thinks they can get away with cheating,whether male or female.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2011): You should take your face book creeping a step further and delete your account. That way you won't torture yourself from creeping in and out. You're driving yourself crazy over a man who's moved on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2011): What's race have to do with it? Maybe he thinks the other woman's not shallow?? Just a thought.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2011): I cheat on women I don't love but I will move in with a woman I love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2011): Because you let him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2011): I'm sorry this happened to you. My childhood sweetie hurt me the same way. His last words to me were 'Sorry but I didn't want to break your heart. You're going to make some guy lucky. See you around.' It destroyed my life. I'm in therapy. Do therapy, that'll ease the gruesome reality and sting. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2011): you had the proof that he was fucking you over yet you kept yourself in the sit based on his lies which you knew were lies. That was the worst thing you could've done because he's no dummy.
He knew you were grasping for straws not wanting to face it and was letting you down easy by still giving it to you and in a sick way getting his nuts off all along. You need to never have anything to do with that dog no matter how much you love him. Cut all contact with him no excuses.He slapped you in your face so now you knock him out cold!
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reader, bernergirl +, writes (31 January 2011):
 I know you want male opinions on this...but I went through something almost identical! I busted him! Because a liar is someone who needs to keep secrets. I think the best thing you can do is to break the secret. I guarantee you a relationship that has begun from infidelity will 100% fail. They always do. I believe that if you are not mature enough to get out of a relationship, then you were never mature enough to begin a relationship. I also think that men (or for that fact..women) who cheat are selfish, narcissistic and suffer from personality disorders.
It sounds like she won the "cheating boyfriend" award! Such a nobel prize. Its not okay to cheat! Don't forget it, because the next weeks will challenge this belief. Somewhere a long the line you'll begin to question it. You did not do anything wrong! A lot of cheaters will attempt to justify their actions, they will use excuses that the relationship was lacking, that you drove him away...anything but take responsibility for their actions within a relationship. Just remember "If they are dumb enough to leave, be smart enough to let them go!"
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2011): I do it because the woman I'm with isn't meeting my standards so I string her along to get as much mileage out of her as I can til I score woman whose a notch or so higher until I find that one special woman who satisfies who covers all bases. The future tip for your gut tells you he's a skunk he is. I'm not proud of my style but it is what it is. He moved her in so that's where his heart is. Lose the dude. He'll take whatever you give him but he'll never comitt to you. He's not into you and he's not going to give you a chance in that way since he knows there's fitter women out here. This makes me feel like an ass writing it out. Keep your head up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2011): not intended to cut you down but could it a karma thing? think back on crud you've done to hearts. just my take. you'll live. have dignity and suck it up.
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