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writes:Has anyone ever gotten back together with a man when the relationship ended before it barely started?I had a beautiful night with a younger man after a two month friendship, and it felt so great, but I got a bit scared and I basically pushed him away, and within 1 week he called a girl he had known from his past for over 6 years, and within a month they were living together and within 2 months he is telling her they are engaged, but no ring yet...now he claims he is marrying next Sept...I have let him go, but I felt such a strong connection with him and I was wondering why men run like that, and now he won't return my calls or come pick up something I have that belongs to him of value, won't even answer if he wants it back...he obviously has moved on, but any idea why he won't talk to me now?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2007): You know what? don't take it personally - and I understand how difficult that can be - because at the end of the day we won't to be loved - men and women - somehow we are wired differently and I believe and live my life,(and Iam prepared to spend it alone) that honest sincere communicaton is key - as we get older, intimacy becomes 2nd part of a relationship,however to spend the rest of your life with a friend who respects you and knows you inside out - is truly a blessing - fyi - I will not comprimse -\
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk I only got one MALE ANSWER, and it seems to be stating the obvious, yeah, he prefers to be with the other woman, but are men that simple, she has over me youth and a younger body, but I am pretty hot for my age, and what was there between us was a spiritual, mental, and emotional connection, I am wondering if he really has the same with this woman since he has been avoiding a relationship with her for only 6 years! When I got involved with him he was talking about moving out of state in in two short months, and so I got scared to fall for him and sort of put on the brakes, and then he just ran to her and even tried to make me jealous by flaunting her in front of me at a happy hour that he knew I would probably attend...so I again just sort of nixed any futhre calls or dates with him telling him it was OK that I was just too old for him anyway, but really I felt I could not compete with her and did not want to sit and wait for him to tire of her, so I just pushed him towards her...I even joked that it would depend on if he was getting married or not as to whether or not he was moving away, andI kid you not, within 2 weeks of that conversation a rumor got back to me that he was engaged to her and this was only a month or so after they got together....don't you think that is a strange coincidence...? I don't think women do not mistreat men, but I don't see them running like that so fast out the door, they like to take things slow and maybe date a couple of guys at once until one becomes special. Men seem to glom onto one woman, and then bolt at the first sign of her hesitation to another who will take him in, and there is always a bevy of women for them to do that with...so what is a gal to do if she wants to take things a bit slower...and not lose the guy? Maybe I had no chance because I am too old?:
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reader, Dr Pete  + ♥, writes (6 October 2006):
 You're wrong to think this is just how men behave. Men and women treat, and mistreat the opposite sex just the same.
It sounds like this guy prefers to be the other women. Rather than feel rejected, or feel that "men" can do this thing, you would be best to put it down to experience and just confidently know yourself that he wasn't right for you. If he were right for you, he would have stuck around.
Don't let what happened make you distrustful of men. We're all entirely different creatures!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for answering...ANY MALE OPINIONS OUT THERE, HAVE YOU DONE THIS BEFORE AND WHY?????
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reader, I Dont Lie + ♥, writes (6 October 2006):
 In my opinion, he was forced to move on when you shut him out back then. Its a very rare trait in a guy because most guys grovel, which I think is the best way to make your own life a misery. Notice how everyone alwyas says, be postive, strong and move on with your life?...well, hes doing exactly that and i dont see anything wrong in that. And its unfair to say that he wasnt actually into you just because he's moved on within a short frame of time. You'll never actually know how much pain hes gone through when he told himself to forget about you and move on. And if you ask me, I think its fair play he's cutting all ties with you, because he's probably still not completely gotten over you yet...but give it some time till he does that, and he will be ready to talk to u like a friend. Hope this helps.
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reader, kellyO +, writes (6 October 2006):
 Hi dearie,
It does happens especailly if the guy doesnt really care enough. I know u feel u have a strong connection for this guy but he has apparently moved on with his life and i think u should try to move on with yours as well. I dont think u should keep trying to call him and if he believes that he left something behind of value then he should take initiative to call u and make appointment to collect his stuff. Perhaps he doesnt think there are as important as u do.
For now go out and enjoy yourself. try and get yourself occupied with alot of activities.
Take care dear
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