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writes: Hey everyone not sure where to start but I'll do my best. I have had 2 relationships in my time now both lasting 2 years. In both relationships the first 6 months were perfect, getting to know the person, flirting, making an effort to look good but after the first 6 months I become comfortable and start to let my guard down a bit. If my partner has done something to annoy me I won't hold back like I would have done and I start to lose intrest in the person. In both relationships I have spent most days and nights with them, living with them from an early stage so not getting space from them didn't help.I know the fact that I've been smothered or me smothering them isn't the only reason why I lose intrest in them. They've both been great people and miss them greatly now, but why do I turn on the ones I love!?
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reader, Richard_EMids  +, writes (16 March 2008):
 Hi. You shouldn't concern yourself at all. This is very normal and to be expected. Doesn't mean you've failed in any way. The chances of finding someone compatible in two relationships is slim. You don't really need to question your love either. Many relationships continue on a short-term-love basis. The love then fades and the relationship finishes. Normal. When there is strong mutual love the relationship has a chance. It might help if you adjust your perpective on love. Instead of thinking of it in terms of either in love or not - ON or OFF - consider that it may occur to a varying degree. A love scale from 1 to 10, where 10 is maximum love. Problem with this theory for you though is you can't rate your feelings because you have not experienced a higher rated love. You'll just have to take it from me that your first two relationships were probably around the 2, 3 , 4 area. In the first 6-9 months of a relationship it's difficult to know your true feelings. You just have to go with it - and see how it turns out.
Have fun and take care/ Richard
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (16 March 2008):
 Something is the matter with you. I would recommend you do a lot of soul searching.
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