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female
age
18-21,
laurenzee
writes:It has been 5 months since my boyfriend of 2 years left me now after he started seeing someone else 4 years his junior. I dont know what to do, the feelings i have for him should have gone away by now becuase he was the one who betrayed me, not the other way round, but they wont.Im doing all the things that youre menat to like seeing my friends, keeping busy etc but its not working. I miss him so much and i wish he would come back every single day. I am so lost and alone without him. He still acts as though i never meant a thing to him when he talks to me online and the way what he says comes across is that he seems to think that ever going out with me was the worst thing he ever did; he makes me feel disgusting and worthless. But i know im not, it just hurts so much that he used to care about me so much and now he has no problem treating me like this. Its as though he wishes i had never been a part of his life, let alone a serious one who he had planned a future with.sorry if this is long winded its not meant to be but im slowly reaching the end of my tether. Seeing him or hearing about him and his new young girlfriend hurts me so much. Im not doing anything that could be considered as the "sad ex" getting involved. I dont talk to him unless he does to me, becuase i have no idea what to say and part of me doesent know who im talking too anymore. Im just so confused.so the questions i would like some advice or answers on if anyone (male or female) can help me are:the fact that he is still horrible to me when he has supposedly got what he wants; what does that mean?why do i still have such strong feelings for him and want him back so much even after what he has done?would he ever "wake up /realise" what he had our relationship was reat and i loved him so much)why does he make me feel so awful even though it was down to him and why does he want to make me and our realtionship feel so worthless to him when he knows how i feel about him.again sorry this was so long, but im not sure what to do anymore. all answers greatly appreciated. Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2008): I'm sorry but that's life.
If you allow yourself to get attached to someone, then you'll stay attached for a long time whether that person is good for you or not. If you pick unhealthy people, then that's who you'll stay attached to.
Time, distance, and some new boyfriends are the only cure.
Aim for better guys, but don't swing too far and try to make it work with someone TOO nice next time. It won't work in the long run, and it will just make you think of your ex again when you feel the lack of attraction to the new guy who is too nice. You need to try to find someone more in the middle if you really want to heal up and move on.
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