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*P3001
writes:Hi. I am a bisexual female. I think I am totally turning lesbian. how do I tell my family. I liked a guy. I played mind games with him because he was honest with me.Why do I play games with certain guys.Probably because he is nice.Maybe it is because I am 100 % lesbian. Please help !!!
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reader, mckenzie09  +, writes (27 February 2008):
hello hunni,
i see u have the same problem as me, i am bisexual and i have a current girlfriend, but i do like guys aswell... i have decided to think about a guy would i rather he was holding me, thinkin about his body being on myn..i thought would i really like that.. and then i thought about it with a woman, i have decided i am more for girl therefore i am closer to being a lesbien, i would suggest you watch the film (gigli)with jennifer lopez in if u already havnt because it about a lesbien that has had a girlfriend but she realised she like men better i think it will help you if u can get it, i also though about the fact that i am a woman myself and being with a woman would be easier in the sexual department because i know excactly how i would like to be touched so i would use this in the way i would pleasure a woman...
i wish u luck in the future
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reader, Cherriepie +, writes (26 February 2008):
 I only play mind games with guys I'n going to sleep with. If your playing mind games with this nice guy that you don't intend to sleep with the real game your playing is with yourself. It's kinda like when your chatting with a guy doing cyber-sex, only your teasing the guy face to face. So are you doing this because it feels good to hold power over a guy?...or is it that the fun of having sex with guys, the kill, is not as much fun as the hunt?
I went through a phase where I only slept with girls for a while, but im past that. I like guys more. As a bisexual you will find your balance between men and women go up and down...maybe your just ready to be with just women now. Follow that feeling and go with it. Dosn't mean its permanent.
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (23 February 2008):
 You play mind games because you can and if it is with nice guys you know deep down you can also get away with it. I think there is some substance to what hello1 is saying; you are doing this not just to keep guys at a distance but as a way of avoiding of dealing with your own emotions which it seems to me you are having some difficulty processing.
If this is the case, in order to stop playing you need to start working through the tangled web of your own feelings about yourself and your sexuality and maybe the people around you too. Confide in somebody you trust and start to discover yourself and you wont feel need to manipulate others so much. Good luck.
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reader, hello1 +, writes (23 February 2008):
 Maybe you play mind games so you can keep guys at a distance from you emotinally? If you are a lesbian or bisexual! It's best to tell your family. If your living at home and their against gays I would keep my mouth shut, if not then sit them down and tell them.
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