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Why do I only get a boner half of the time we want to have sex?

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Question - (14 June 2011) 5 Answers - (Newest, 19 June 2011)
A male Germany age 26-29, anonymous writes:

People I have a biiig problem.

Me and my gf have been together for 3 months now and we were both eachtother first time.

The sex couldnt be any better ... but lately half of the time when we want to have sex I either don't get a boner from the start, or it gets hard, but doesnt stay hard..

Can someone tell me why this is happening and what can i do against it??

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A female reader, lost.dreamer Canada +, writes (19 June 2011):

Talk to your girlfriend, it may not even be a problem for her, but make sure she realizes it's not because you are not into her. When my bf was having issues we talked, and realized we just let things happen, come what may, and there are lots of ways to have fun even if he won't stand up. Once he stopped worrying, what do you know things changed. Occassionally he finishes now but not much comes out after multiple times, but that is his only concern (oh well less mess)since the original issues he's now able to get hard several times during an encounter, but with him all it was, was too much worry

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland +, writes (18 June 2011):

aunt honesty agony auntSometimes worrying about it though will be causing your problems. Try and stay relaxed and just see what happens dont put pressure on yourself just take things slowly.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2011):

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Well I dont take drugs and I barely ever drink alcohol, I dont have heartproblems either, but I am kinda stressed with school but Im on vacation right now and pretty chilled out and he still only gets hard half of the time.

Well yeah I am worrying about it, would be weird if I wouldnt. It takes forever here in germany to get an apointment by a doctor. This sucks !!

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland +, writes (14 June 2011):

aunt honesty agony auntAre you under any stress with other parts of your life or are you tired or drained? There could be lots of different reasons. Are you worrying about it? This could also effect it. Do you have a healthy life style? If it keeps going and becomes a major problem well then go and take a trip to your doctor to see what the underlying reason could be. Good Luck.

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A male reader, galdegir Australia +, writes (14 June 2011):

This can happen for many reasons too much alcohol too much dope if you smoke that rubbish, heart and circulatory problems, stress even fatigue. Try to get a good nights sleep beforehand prior to being intimate with her again see if that helps the problem.

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