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36-40,
*he_CityGirl
writes:I feel that I am picking smart and attractive men to date, but after a few weeks of dating I always get this feeling all of a sudden that I have no interest in him. He'll do nice things for me and will be a complete gentleman, but I end up resenting him for this. Why do I lose interest? Is there a way to fix this? Reply to this Question
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (29 March 2008):
 Like many younger women, it sounds like you may favor a more dangerous or mysterious kind of guy. It is a paradox, because many guys figure this out and play the part - or in some cases, they really are more dangerous. Either are more likely to be unfaithful, dishonest, play games with you or worse. Still, many girls are fascinated by the "bad boy" image although the relationship is doomed from the beginning. A good example is Tommy Lee, the bad boy rocker, or Mick Jagger, who will never be faithful to any woman. You will be screwed, yanked around, lied to, cheated on, possibly beaten - and will love every minute of it until you finally learn that the nice guys are really the better although somewhat less exciting alternative. It often takes some young women quite awhile to figure this out, often after after giving birth to one or more fatherless children and being jerked around in every possible way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2008): Your just young and your not ready to be in a relationship. Same thing would happen to me when I was your age. I too would get tired quick. Its just a sign that you are not ready and/or that you just haven't met the right guy just yet. Its probably a combination.
The day that you feel ready and that you meet the right guy, you'll just know it. I didn't fall inlove till I was 24. And even he and I broke up eventually and I am single again.
But right now you are so young. I mean I am 27 and I still don't feel completely ready to settle down, so imagine when I was your age.
Trust me, you should just enjoy your single life. Keep dating. Have friends. Build your career and just be happy and enjoy your life. You'll eventually fall inlove for sure.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (29 March 2008):
 Because they are so predictable and having no surprises.
It becomes boring after sometime.
They don't challenge your senses.
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reader, ObsessiveElley +, writes (29 March 2008):
 Hello. It sounds to me like you need to be picky.. A little more picky I mean..I think you should try to look for more edgyier men..I know thats not a word..but im sure ya know what i mean..like try to date men who have a little more fun..don't pick the boring gentle men all the time.try all different kinds..and see if the same reaction occurs!!
Elley
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