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Why do I like to keep personal things private...but still have an urge to spill some secrets??

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Question - (12 March 2011) 2 Answers - (Newest, 13 March 2011)
A female United Kingdom age 22-25, anonymous writes:

I'll get straight to the point. I like some mystery and to keep things about myself to myself. Because I don't think people should know everything I do and all about me, this goes for even best friends and immediate family (mum, dad, brother, sister).

But the thing is I say that and although I do try sometimes not to mention anything relating to how a night out with friends was, or what someone said to me, or something that has happened... things like that. I still have this urge to tell someone and then sometimes I end up saying to much and i realise after i said it, that i could of just kept that to myself.

What i'm trying to say is why do i always reaaally want to tell someone about something, even though at the same time, i don't want to give too much away!?

If anyone can make sense of what i've said, and has an answer pleaseeeeeee tell me!!??

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A reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2011):

This is totally normal and okay :)... it is good to have communication within your family however some things you judt dont talk about. For example, my father wants to know about my views on women and relationships. I keep that to myself and tell him I like to be private. He respects it. As long as you tell people what youre being private about, I think it helps dispel any emotion cause if u keep emotions inside about "secrets", then you could end up kinda emo and lash out at people lol. Bottled emotions is never good. However, privacy is and should be respected. Hope this helps.

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A female reader, Auntie Mel United Kingdom +, writes (12 March 2011):

Auntie Mel agony auntI do have a similar problem. I don't understand the psychology behind it (I'm sure if you searched the internet or asked an expert you could find something about it) but I could suggest ways in which to deal with it.

First of all make sure you know people you can trust, you know this by simply looking at the history of these people, things like have they ever betrayed you before or have they ever gossiped about another one of their close friends to others?

Then think of some secrets you wouldn't mind too much if others found out and then some secrets that you want to keep to yourself.

Tell the secrets you wouldn't mind people finding out about to the people you trust and the other secrets maybe write them down in a dairy or something so you can think about them to yourself.

If you cant keep the secrets you want to keep personal tell the person you trust most.

All I can suggest is try your best to keep them personal.

Best Wishes xx

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