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writes:hey, i'm a sixteen year old girl and i'm worried about my love and social life because i've realized every guy i've ever fancied has been a considerable age older than me ranging from 20 to 40 but all of them it's more than a crush it's an obsession.I've fancied about 6 teachers and literally spent every moment obsessing about them and they always corrupt my life, i can't focus on school work or be happy around friends(about 3) and sometimes when i'm with them i just long to be with them so much i think i imagine they're giving me signs because some are really unbelievably nice to me, although i'm always way over the top towards them but looking down from reality i then think they're just humouring me or whatever and the feeling just clings to me and it eats me i spend more time than i should crying.When i'm in conflict with others i just feel so emotional and my friends just call me a gimp i dont have many friends, i'm not unattractive but i'm quite shy although my confidence has grown a lot but i have never fancied anyone within the same age range as me and i just feel so abnormal. And now i have a new teacher and it's happening again and i just want it to stop because i can feel it's going to later rule my life, but i actually think he might be interested this time he's quite young, and he always is really nice to me and he always works with me when i havent got a partner and sometimes when he walks past me he goes red and speeds up his walk and i want him so bad but i don't want to fall into that trap again and it will be even worse for me. Please just give me any advice i don't know what to do!thankyou xxx
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reader, darksecretangel +, writes (16 June 2007):
 Well your not the only one who has had crushes bordering on obsessions on teachers.
Teachers are always objects of our crushes because they are seen as mature and perfect in our eyes.
Even if this teacher was intrested, i doubt he would do anything and you shouldnt encourage him, since you and him would get into a lot of trouble. Although you are legal now, it would still be agianst the law for you and him to get together, because a teacher can not enter a sexually relationship with a student under 18, and also if he loves his job the he would do it.
Hun you are not abnormal. Guys our age are immature thats why we always go for the older man.Over time you will probably get over your thing for older men and find someone who you really like who you can have a relationship with.
Good luck xxx
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reader, Brij +, writes (7 February 2007):
I think that at 16, you shouldn't be entertaining hopes of getting together with a teacher, even if he is relatively young.
It's perfectly normal to think about teachers, especially those who are good to you, and there's nothing wrong with that, but you should never expect anything to happen - it could get them in big trouble, and you should consider your reputation, too.
If you aren't attracted to guys your own age, frankly, I wouldn't worry about that either. Although you're old enough to be a young woman now rather than a child, you have lots of time to enjoy being a kid before you should start worrying about lads - and from what I know of 16 year old boys, you're probably better off not being interested until they're a bit more mature anyway! Give it a couple of years before you start wondering if you have a 'thing' for older men - there's nothing wrong with that, but you should wait until you are a fully mature adult before you think about getting involved with an adult, and never anyone who has a legal responsibility of care towards you (like a teacher) - it's inappropriate for either of you to approach your relationship like that, even when you are an adult.
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