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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Ok 5 years ago I fell in love with aman 12 yr older than me I am 27 and over the years he took my love as a game I feel he has no care at all. Till I get his total attention him in love or at least acting to be when we are alone.We broke up I lived went out and just had a laugh for 3 months I realised my worth doing this and found I have always got my friends there with me enjoying my time.I end up some how going back to him and I feel so alone I feel sad I cry every weekend I tried as we agreed to do but he put his friend before me 3 weekends in a row I was not made to feel that I am loved by him.Why do I have to be this game he wants to play I am a nice person that he must secretly hate I do sense abuse in how he is treating me he see my pain but he continues to act and be the same.He going away on holiday end of july he booking it tomorrow with his daughter and his certain male friend!!! well I don't no what to do or feel I hate him for excuses as we was split when they planned to go abroad as a reason.Just why he keep telling me that he loves me why is he letting me hurt by these ways
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (1 July 2013):
 stop listening to his words and instead listen to his actions.
His actions tell you how he truly feels. HE is not letting you hurt you are by being available for him.
I think it's time for you to let this man go and go back to being happy and single.
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reader, oldbag +, writes (30 June 2013):
 Hi
Puzzled why you went back to him when you sounded so much happier when your single.
Why let him play you, why not simply walk away and STAY away, all he does is make you miserable.
Your not children anymore so do the adult thing and leave, take responsibility for your *own* happiness and future.All he does is make you unhappy and after 5 years he aint about to change.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (30 June 2013):
 Because it works for him. If he just needs to TELL you that he loves you, without ever actually showing you, to keep you there at his beck and call, he can have you for sex, companionship and comfort when he wants and go about his business with whomever he prefers when he does not want you. Convenient.
This would seem a no brainer, actually. If you felt sad, unhappy and unloved whne you were with him- then you felt better, happier and more positive when you were not with him, - and now that you are together again, AGAIN yu feeel sad, unhappy and unloved.... it seems pretty intuitive what you've got to do to find your zest for life and peace of mind again : ditch him 1
People cannot play games with you, if you are not willing to play along. Pack up your toys and leave the playground, and he 'll have to play solo.
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