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Why do I feel like my husband doesn't want to have sex with me?

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Question - (26 July 2010) 4 Answers - (Newest, 26 July 2010)
A female United Arab Emirates age 51-59, *ol writes:

hi,

i am over tense as i feel my husband dont like to make sex with me can you please help me understand this? is this because i am not attracted to him? or any other reason? he dont even touch till we have sex nor he feels like touching me nor say sex words why? he says he only loves me and cannot leave without me? why am i feeling unattractive and unwanted. as we loved each other and fought with the world to be together..or is he seeing other woman? please advice.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2010):

Are you sure that he have not an affair with someone else.

Maybe he got erection problems and are shy to talk about it.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2010):

hi, i read other question from u.

i think you need to take it slowly.

not all men are into sex words.

talk to him about that, and see what he like, you can for example tell him that you heard that some men talk dirty to their wives, and see what he think about that.

try to have romantic dinner, dress up for him, make sure u smell very nice and sexy, and show him love, and i'm sure he will react.

get it try and take it slowly , he may have problems at work or something, don't assume the bad thing first, assume good, and hopefully everything will be ok.

good luck

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A reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2010):

If you suspect he doesn't want sex then you're probably right.

The next step is to recognize together: you don't have anything to lose in fully disclosing ALL your thoughts and feelings on the matter.

Finally you might as well just sit down and say every single thing on your mind and in your heart about your sex life (non-sex life in this case) because you don't have anything to lose now.

Remember, one or both of you may hold back some things, so it's important to point out when that's happening until the air clears.

Finally, you two gotta agree to appreciating exactly what your needs are - so get out there what you need, and what he needs.

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A male reader, BrownWolf Canada +, writes (26 July 2010):

BrownWolf agony aunt

Sometimes to get a relationship back to where is was, you have to go back to what attracted him the first time.

Sometimes husbands and wives wait for the other to make the first move. If you don't touch him, he won't touch back.

If you were wild and sexy when you met, then go back to being wild and sexy.

You fought with the world to be together, don't stop fighting now that you are together.

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