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writes: What's up with guys baiting girls who they know like them? Like, what's the point? I think it's just cruel, and rude. It's happened to me and a few of my friends: a guy who is not actually interested in dating a girl (or even sleeping with her) but knows she has a thing for him will flirt with her and lead her on, then suddenly ignore her, then when she's almost gotten over it, show up in her life and start leading her on again. To me it just seems like a horrible thing to do, and I can't imagine why anybody would screw with people like that just at random. Enlighten me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2011): There is another way to look at this: Why do girls like guys who play head games with them?
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reader, Pleh  +, writes (17 November 2011):
It goes both ways, it's not just guys who to it to girls, women do it to men too. That doesn't make it any better, but you can't just confine it to one sex.
Anyway, I guess the main reason is control and attention. I mean, as human beings we live for attention and strive for status. If someone likes you but you don't reciprocate the feelings, I guess it makes you feel good about yourself, doesn't it? It means you're found to be attractive by the opposite sex - which at the end of the day is what we want. We all want to feel loved. As for the control, it gives us an edge over someone... it's wrong but people abuse it for the sake of having the power to. It's not often that we can genuinely have power over someone.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (17 November 2011):
 It's called the male ego, and it won't be the first time that you wrestle this beast..
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2011): All boils down to their own insecurity. It's so easy to flirt with someone and string them along whe they KNOW they will get a positive reaction. Once they got the predictable response it they are satisfied with the ego boost & leave it alone until it suits them. It's too easy for them & you are too available. Best thing to do is ignore them 100% next time they try.
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