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writes:I was in a relationship for almost a year and a half with a woman that i loved dearly. One day (over the phone) she basically broke up with me; told me that she did not loved me and needed some room to figure things out. after a week, i called her to follow up on things, and realized that this situation was not going to change, so i asked her that i would like my things back, to which she agreed, but advised me that she would mail them to me even though i knew that could not be done, due to the amount of thing and their content. They could fill a small car's trunk anyway, this went on for a few more weeks. I called her once a week to find out about my things and she kept telling me the same thing about mailing them. I told her that was not necesary, i could pick them up or she could drop them off. We live a few blocks away from each other, but she insisted on the same thing and was wondering what was my hurry. 3 and a half weeks after the break up i ran into her in a 4 way stop, close to her work, around her lunch hour (11 am). Her reaction to me when she noticed it was me, was very odd. She banged the wheel and grab her head and i could see she was saying something, but who knows what it was. At that moment i realized that she was heading into a residencial area, and she had no business heading in that direction unless she was going to someone's house. At that moment i realized the reasons for the break up. Anyway i called her and i told her i wanted my things. Well, she agreed and the next day i pick up my things right out her trunk. Why did she delay returning my things??. I returned her things the next day after she dumped me!. Was it because she wanted to keep some kind of contact line open or was it because she really did not care about it, she had other things on her mind. Did she finally agreed to return them, because she figure i realized things, that she was putting me on the back burner for the time being and there was no need to continue the game with my things??. What is the correct way to handle things like this?. Is there something that i do not understand about her actions in delaying to return my things.
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reader, speedcat +, writes (25 January 2008):
Warning! most of the time when a woman tells you that they "need time" its over. Seems your still hooked on her. Could be a couple of reasons why she didnt return your stuff either she just wanted them for herself(what were they?) or she wanted to avoid seeing you,, or just plain didnt care,,seems by the way she pulled her hair in the car that shes done with you let it go............move on good luck....
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (25 January 2008):
 I wouldn't spend any more time dwelling on this Buddy. There could lots of reasons why she dragged her feet but you finally got your things back. The important thing is she has moved on and so must you. Good luck.
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