New here? Register in under one minute   Already a member? Login244945 questions, 1084256 answers  

  DearCupid.ORG relationship advice
  Got a relationship, dating, love or sex question? Ask for help!Search
 New Questions Answers . Most Discussed Viewed . Unanswered . Followups . Forums . Top agony aunts . About Us .  Articles  . Sitemap

Why did my guy betray me and stop being loyal while I was busy supporting my Dad during Dad's terminal illness?

Tagged as: Cheating, Family, Health, Online dating, Troubled relationships, Trust issues<< Previous question   Next question >>
Question - (26 January 2016) 4 Answers - (Newest, 26 January 2016)
A female United Kingdom age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I have had the worst year of my life due to my dad's terminal illness.

This has took a lot out of me waiting for the outcome to happen. I had what I thought was an amazing man supporting me. I've now happened to find out that through all these bad times he was flirting online and registering for dating sites.

I have confronted him and now all I want to do is find out why.

He is continuing with lies after lies, even though he knows that I know what he's been doing. I thought he was loyal. What do I do? I find it hard to understand why and at such a time to do it.

View related questions: flirt

<-- Rate this Question

Reply to this Question


Share

Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question!

A female reader, Jeanette82 United Kingdom +, writes (26 January 2016):

Jeanette82 agony auntYou have found this out at a very bad time, but I think it might have been happening for some time before it.

If it wasnt going on before, then either way, you now know what happens when he becomes a little bored. He finds his own excitement. What you are going through does not matter. He wants his fun and excitement.

Why would anybody lie, if they have done nothing wrong? You will forever be suspicious now. Everything he tells you could be a lie, because you know he will lie if he has to. Is this what you want?

<-- Rate this answer

A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland +, writes (26 January 2016):

aunt honesty agony auntYou mention that you have had the worst year off your life, and I am sorry to hear that. You thought your boyfriend was supporting you, but where you in turn supporting him as well? Yes we all go through grief and trauma in our lives where we need our partners to support us, but we need to show them thanks in return and let them know we are still there for them. Do you think maybe you neglected him in this sense?

Do you know when he registered for the dating sites? Was it when you where having a hard time or was it before hand? Its not fair off him to lie, you need to tell him what proof you ask, and say to him if he doesn't tell you the truth then the relationship is over. It is hard to hear a partner lie, so give him another chance to put things right and give him a chance to explain himself. He probably doesn't feel like he can talk to you about his feelings as you have been having a hard time.

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

A female reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2016):

Let me get this right. You are going through anguish, and because you`re not the able to be exactly what he wants through this difficult time, he goes elsewhere? You seem a lot more forgiving than I could be.

He didnt stop being loyal, he probably never was.

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (26 January 2016):

Honeypie agony auntMy guess?

He felt he wasn't getting enough attention and affections from you, so he looked elsewhere. Whether he was ACTUALLY looking for a "replacement" of you or just to feel like HE was the center of someone's life, is hard to say.

NOT that it's a valid excuse - but I can easily see a person "using" it as a reason.

Are you sure he wasn't signed up BEFORE this happened?

And as for him lying about it... well, again I can only guess... THAT he thinks if he STICKS to HIS story ( I didn't DO it!) You will eventually cave and let it go.

My question to you is, IS this are guy you can see yourself with long term? Who starts doing inappropriate stuff when life gets tough? And then lies, lies and lies about it?

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

Add your answer to the question "Why did my guy betray me and stop being loyal while I was busy supporting my Dad during Dad's terminal illness?"

Already have an account? Login first
Don't have an account? Register in under one minute and get your own agony aunt column - recommended!

All Content Copyright (C) DearCupid.ORG 2004-2008 - we actively monitor for copyright theft

0.0312398999958532!