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writes:Why did my boyfriend agree to me breaking up with him? I broke up with my boyfriend today because I found out that he has been texting a girl behind my back, asking her to go over to his place (I talked to the girl and found this out) and he denied it. A few days ago my boyfriend and I promised to each other that we would never leave each other. But this obviously was too much for me to handle. So, he left a message on my phone saying that I made the right decision because I had made a promise to him that I would never leave and that this shows that I would just walk out on our family if we were married and that he can't trust me. He had the nerve to say that I lied! Is he just trying to get me back by blaming me and acting like he is happy with the decision I made when he really isn't happy?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2008): It sounds like your boyfriend is hurting, as you would expect anyone who is going through a break up, but rather than deal with the pain himself, he decided to make himself feel better by making you feel bad by making you feel like you were the one with problem and that you would have ruining your relationship any way, sooner or later.
I definaely wouldn't say this is a "guy" thing. It a "person" thing. Many people react in hurtful ways when they are hurt themselves. Not that I am excusing him, what he did was nasty and it is a reason to stay away from him and let him get over the break up. And you, don't believe what he said, he is the one who made the mistake, you didn't do anything wrong so don't let him bring you down.
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reader, 48years  +, writes (1 December 2008):
 He's happy you ended it. Guys have a way of getting the girl to take the blame. They rarely end it themselves, and then they feel justified.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2008): Men are stubborn honey, and at the moment he's in his revenge phase. He either wants to make you as miserable as he is or he is just a major butt head. Just forget about him! There are plenty of fish in the sea that deserve your time and affections :) best of luck! Xoxo
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reader, Fatherly Advice + ♥, writes (1 December 2008):
 He is not trying to get back. He is still trying to tell you that he was not involved with the other girl. He is hurt that you believe her and not him. You told him it was over and now you are upset that he agrees with you. What did you want him to do? It appears that you are the one playing the game. If you want him to trust you then you will have to trust him.
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reader, Flporrego  +, writes (1 December 2008):
 In my opinion, this boy is playing an immature game to make you jealous. My girlfriend recently broke up with me (we got back together) but she broke up with me and i completely acted like EVERYTHING was fine. She broke down because she thought i was really moving on fast. But it was something i purposely did. Now, it all turned around when she started doing it. At first she was sending me messages about how im an asshole and stuff so i knew i had the upperhand. But when she stopped, and she acted like she was fine, i broke down. This decision is probably best if he cant handle a relationship. Never make promises that you cant guarantee. I know at the moment it seems like the right promise but keep in mind that there are 80 year old couples that have been together since high school that get a divorce. Hard to believe but its the way life goes. And always keep in mind that the world keeps spinning. Somewhere out there there's a person with a worse situation than yours. Don't live in the past. Use it as a reference for the present and to excel your future. Be strong. :).
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