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writes:I was friends for a long time with a guy, then dated him for a short while... we broke up, and remained friends. the breakup happened almost five years ago, and i took a while to get over him especially since he remained close by in my life as a friend... between him and the next person i dated, i wasn't with anyone seriously for about five years.then, i met a guy last year who i took to immediately last year. i tried to incorporate him into my life as much as i could, and i did not hide anything. he met all of my friends, including my ex who has remained a close friend. my ex (who has dated a few people and is not single right now), seemed to respond with greater attention towards me once he met my boyfriend. i sometimes go up to stay with him and his friends during vacation time, and the last few times i've seen him, he was cooking for me quite a bit, hanging out with me more than usual, being nicer and more generous in general to me than he usually is...i almost felt like he was realizing that i would not be his strictly 'platonic ego-fallback girlfriend' forever, and he wanted to regain more of the attention i was starting to give to my new boyfriend. or, was he just starting to realize that someday our friendship could become more distant if i ever were to get with someone in a serious long term relationship again? (many people describe us as best friends).... i know that when my exes start to date other people, i really gain a greater appreciation for them, knowing that someday they could be completely gone from my life...what do you think his reasons were for being so much more proactive in our friendship, once i started a new serious relationship with someone that i loved so deeply?
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reader, petina1  +, writes (1 October 2009):
 He is jealous of the attention you are receiving. How you perceive that, whether he wants you back or is just simply jealous is down to you both to sort out, but even same sex friends can get jealous when a third party is involved. Have some space apart to concentrate on your own relationships if it gets too intense. Hope this helps.
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