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anonymous
writes:i am 21 and i have had sex with a few guys in my life and 1 is my boyfriend now.and out of all them.i have never had an orgasm..and me and my boyfriend have sex about 2 times a weak.dont get me wrong it feels good in me.but i can never get there..i can get off by masturbate. now with i do that i only play with my clit.and my boyfriend is not average.and we do forplay and im relaxed.im just not able to have a orgasm by sex. is there somthing wrong with me?????
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (13 January 2009):
 Honey, there's nothing wrong with you. About 2/3 of women do not reach orgasm by penetrative sex alone; so you're in the majority. It's not your fault, it's not his fault. It's just how things are.
Now there are ways to help you achieve this while you have intercourse, essentially you want the clitoris to be stimulated at the same time. This can be done by your hand, his hand or a small vibrator.
Try to have fun with it; don't get too focused on it or you might get in the way of your own pleasure! Just play, relax, don't have too many expectations.
Enjoy the journey!
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reader, Fairy_Lu  +, writes (13 January 2009):
 Nope nothing wrong with you i have the same problem but my boyfirend likes it when i play with my clit at the same time as he is maiing love to me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2009): You answer your own question. When you masturbate, you play with your clit. He feels good inside, but that is vaginal stimulation.
Different women require different things. The odd thing about the design of your privates is that in a lot of positions, the stimulation of the clitoris during penetration is subtle or even absent. By changing positions, seeking one where the penis is forced to rub more to the top of your slit, in missionariy by him pulling himself up as it were, you can maybe improve it enough for satisfy you.
A simpler method is to simply use your vingers, or his, or a toy to provide that little bit extra.
Do not make the common mistake of thinking just plain intercourse should be enough for you. Lots of women need more then just a penis in their vagina. You know what works, apply it.
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reader, Arianz  +, writes (13 January 2009):
 Dear,
I think you should talk to your BF about this. Let him know that you want orgasm.
1st tell him your expectation from him I hope he will understand that.
2nd how you like to foreplay and what makes to feel more good and wet tell him in a sweet way so that he can feel it… Every person has different ways of orgasm, so suggest him to do as you like.
Another thing maybe is happening with you that you habituate with masturbating so its hard for you to have it by sex. So you can try fake moan during it…that can be helpful for you…
Best of luck
Take care
arianz
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (13 January 2009):
 There is nothing wrong with you I promise! Its actually very common that women cant have an orgasm through penetrative sex, normally clitoral stimulation is the only way many women can achieve an orgasm.
Dont worry too much....if it feels good then just enjoy it and get your boyfriend to give you an orgasm through stimulating your clitoris before you have sex so you both have an orgasm!
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