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writes:My boyfriend of six months broke up with me over text a month ago- I get it the relationship wasn't exactly a two way street. We did everythingn in his time and I put up with a lot more than I should have- like him bringing his friends over on date night - me beig introduced to all his family members even though there was no alone time(well as much as I wanted to) . Me always being understanding about his busy schedule- him working 60+ hours cause he is a mechanics and would always be tired. Although my therapist and family tell me this man was a selfish man- a man that is impulsive and broke up wth me for no reason and their glad because it saved me from a man that can't provide anything - I still feel like it's the end of the world. I still find ways to blame myself sometimes of things I could have done differently when people tell me that I did way too mch for a man that was 30 and so self centered . I don't know why I'm so hung up. I haven't heard from him -but there are day I pray for clarity- there are days I pray that I get a text just to re sure some closure - I feel like it's the end of the world- I feel like im running the same circles of reasoning and am going nuts - this man barely got to know me - wanted to be in a relationship with me - chased me and ended it when he realized I don't feel like having a gf over the summer it doesn't fit with my beers buddies and bike shows - im so hurt - people say im pretty - have a lot going for me (job looks money) but I don't care . I just wanted clarity. I feel so defeated - I went out of my way to be nice to somoene that was so mean and I get left via text with all my stuff at his house - I don't care for the stuff nor will i contact him for it but I feel so low. Im 30 and this was the second relationship I truly tried and this happened. My last relationship three years ago was for 5 years and he was also a jerk but at least he didn't dump me over text I left him after the verbal abuive got too much- will I ever get closure - I know it was only 6 months but i'm so hurt at being so niceand being screwed over - what is wrong with me ?
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reader, miss frank  +, writes (29 June 2016):
Hi. I think you are the same poster who had written a couple of times before? Please go back to answer I have last time... Time to take control back here my dear, and employ the tactics from that ru help move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2016): Hi. I really feel for you. I am having problems with my boyfriend at the moment. We have been in an on/off relationship for eight months. I'm not sure where I stand at the moment. The latest thing that happened that got me upset was that there is a new member if staff in this pub that we go in. This member of staff has a girlfriend, and my on/off boyfriend told this member of staff that he thought she was beautiful!. He said he said that to raise her confidence because they were new to the pub, but this has still upset me. I have put up with a lot from him. Sometimes, we have been getting closer recently, but then some things happen that make everything go wrong again, hence why we have been on and off.I'm not really sure what to advise, as I am in a similar situation, and I dont know what to do about my own situation, but I wanted to let you know that I am here to talk to you as it helps to talk to people in a similar situation, and I wanted you to know that you are not alone. My boyfriend even told me to get with someone else today!. We were arguing about what he said about this woman. I font know how he could say that if he loves me.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (28 June 2016):
 Nothing is wrong with you, you were just with the wrong person and you allowed him to mess with you way too much. You know he wasn't right for you, the people who care for you know he wasn't right for you but you still refuse to see the real picture.
Please don't take it as a personal defeat that he dumped you... Believe me, it had nothing to do with how you are. Someone once said, "you can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world but there will always be someone who hates peaches".
Do you understand what I'm trying to say? You didn't do anything wrong, he didn't appreciate you for who you are and that's his problem and his loss, not yours. Celebrate your freedom instead of moping! Stop being silly about it because you know he was terrible for you and yet you're mourning for him. And beer buddies and bike shows... Come on OP... You can't possibly think this guy was a good catch! Add to it the fact that he ended it via text and you know what a class act he was.
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