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writes:I am living with a married man, who is not divorced, or seeking divorce, wife left 4 years ago, neither is legally separated, yet both are property owners of the house that this man lives in and which I reside with him at his request. Did not know about it until months after, we have been living together now for 15 months. Her mail still comes to the house, which he takes liberty in taking to her, such as credit card bills, and cell phone bills. He is also paying child support for a child conceived during the marriage and has contact with the other woman also. I know that this is not a good situation for me to be in, he tells me that he wants me here, I am that distraction only, he does not ask or offer me any assistance for my welfare. He stated I am his reprieve and do not want to have to deal with me too. Meaning having to do anything for me, knowing this does not help me, why can't I leave?
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (26 August 2009):
 Stop saying you can't leave. You can pack your bags and walk out at any time. There's no gate in front of the door, only the gate you have created in your mind. You have determined for yourself that you are willing to settle for crumbs in order to have a man. Unless you make the decision for yourself that this situation isn't good for you, you will stay there and stay miserable.
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (25 August 2009):
 I don't know why you can't do it, but you better do it before this ruins you. Sounds like he's having three women or more all at once.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2009): assert yourself, respect yourself and see this situation for what it is. If he decides to ditch you tommorow you have no rights or entitlements.
I would be inclined to ditch him. I dont care how good he may be in other ways but he is not treating you as a man should treat the woman he loves.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2009): you do not leave because you choose not to. you have decided during these mature years that you will settle for just mere crumbs he is giving you. WAKE UP LADY. this man has told you he is only using you, yet you stay with him in his wifes home. wake up and re claim some self respect. re claim some morals, if you do possess them.
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