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Why can't I get over myself?

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Question - (6 June 2011) 4 Answers - (Newest, 7 June 2011)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Hi :)

I think i'm frigid. I'm 16 years old, never kissed anyone, never tried to kiss anyone or go further.

I have had opputunities, and i just dont feel confident enough when it comes down to making move.

I'm not ugly, and i've had boys come up and ask me out before, but i don't really want a boyfriend or drama yet.

Though i feel this way physically, i still watch porn when im in the mood.

I feel very confused about why i cant get over myself, and why i even watch porn!

Please, just help or advise!

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A female reader, cupidus Canada +, writes (7 June 2011):

cupidus agony auntMaybe the porn is giving you the wrong idea's about sexual contact. Don't rely on porn as an educational course in love making. You can't become the actress of imitation.

Your experiences will not be those you may think are already tried and tested. It will be an adventure, live it.

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A female reader, celtic_tiger United Kingdom +, writes (6 June 2011):

celtic_tiger agony auntRelax! Stop beating yourself up and be nicer to yourself.

You are still only 16 years old. This is still VERY young to be having any kind of sexual relationship. I know it probably seems like all your friends are at it like rabbits, but you would be suprised as to how many are probably making it up to look cool. There are probably lots of others who have never been kissed either. They just dont let on or lie.

Your body and mind are just telling you that you are not ready for sex yet, and all the emotional stuff that comes with it.

You have a whole lifetime to have sex, date boys and get your heart broken. Enjoy being young.

Go easy on yourself. You are PERFECTLY normal. :)

Tiger xx

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A female reader, dummyduckling United Kingdom +, writes (6 June 2011):

dummyduckling agony aunti agree you are young and have plenty of time to experience these things. if your not ready your not ready. your only human at the end of the day, and every human has sexual urges. your not fridgid at all. i used to think the same. i didnt have a proper boyfriend untill i was 17 and i didnt do anything serious with him untill i was almost 18. your doing the right thing by waiting untill you feel comfortable, dont let anyone tell you your frigid, and dont let anyone force you in to a relationship if you dont want to be, really hope this helps :)

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A male reader, The Realist Canada +, writes (6 June 2011):

The Realist agony auntYou still have a sexual side and that is perfectly normal. You're young and have plenty of time before you start dating and get into all of that.

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