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writes:kinda embarrassed about this but here goes: i bm having trouble finishing during sex with my gf. it's always been a problem for me since i was a teenager. whenever i masturbate, sometimes i cum/finish but sometimes i don't. it's been the same with every woman i've had sex with. now i'm getting upset about it because it's worrying my gf. we've been together 2years and things are generally great btwn us, in fact, i've asked her to move in with me and plan to propose at christmas. we had a period of very little sex for the last 3 months as i had to work nights. i missed her! now we're back to seeing each other regularly and usually can't keep our hands off each other! but, i thought i'd be firing great as we'd had no sex for a few months...i was wrong! each time has been different places/speed/amount of foreplay/type of sex, but not once have i finished. my gf didn't say anything at 1st, said it didn't matter as long as i had fun and she didn't want it to become a big deal. but i know it upsets her. she spent a long time caressing me and giving great head with eye contact and her touching herself at my request last nt and i still didn't finish. she got upset, said she felt embarrassed and unattractive and left my place at 2am to go home instead of staying over at mine:( my questions are: why does this happen? is there something wrong with me? how do i reassure my totally hot and amazingly sexy gf that it's not anything she's doing wrong? how do i stop worrying about it? how do i make myself finish with her next time??btw, i have no medical issues, don't smoke, drink or do drugs! work is stressful and money is tight, but that's nothing new.thanks.
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reader, Bazinga +, writes (7 November 2013):
 Could it be psychological?. I think olderthandirt is correct, possibly best if you go to see your GP and talk to him/her about it. It could be a medical issue. Don't worry too much, I'm sure you will be grand.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (6 November 2013):
 My guess(since I'm older and can relate) is enlarged prostate or worse yet pre-canserous prostate problems. I'd hike on down to your local uerologist and get it checked out!
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