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female
age
26-29,
*onita
writes:umm i just recently just lost my virginity about 2 months ago. and i haven't been able to feel my self cum at any time. my boy friend thinkings i dont relax enough. but when i try to relax it doest help much it feel better but i dont feel my self cum. he says i cum a lot and very fast and easy but i never felt it. we have tryed a lot of things masturbating oral yet nothing works. so can you give me any help or advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2010): Sounds to me like you haven't orgasmed yet , trust me you would feel it.
Your boyfriend sounds as if he is a little confused as to what exactly the female orgasm is. He is right though about trying to relax.
To find out what an orgasm feels like I'd try masterbating on your own in a private place where you feel comfortable. This will help find out what you like and what feels good for you and possibly, bring you to orgasm. Help your boyfriend out by telling him what you've discovered.
Don't rush into masterbating or getting your boyfriend to do what you tell him with the hopes of orgasming really fast , it could take a while , and lots of women don't orgasm through things such a penetrative sex or foreplay. It might take a while for you and your boyfriend to succesfully bring you to orgasm , but keep relaxed and help him out a little and hopefully you'll experience with it.
Obviously if you feel uncomfortable with your boyfriend and what your doing you're perfectly within your rights to ask him to stop.
And make sure if you're going to have any sort of penetrative sex you use condoms and possibly seek some sort of back-up contraception such a the pill!
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