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Why can't I experience orgasms like the girls in porn? Any thoughts?

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Question - (19 January 2007) 18 Answers - (Newest, 14 November 2008)
A female United Kingdom, anonymous writes:

I keep watching porn and seeing these girls come loads! I mean like waterfalls of come! Is this real or fake? Why can't I do it? Thanks

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A female reader, pooderkin United States +, writes (14 November 2008):

Yes, squirtting orgasms are real and I'm jealous as hell that I have not had one. I have however, seen them in person with two different women. The last one the girl was squirting a couple of feet at a time and in about two hours repeatedly did so approximately 15 times. I have known several other friends that do have them. Whether all girls can have them or not, I'm not sure. But, I'm gonna keep trying and I hope all of you other ladies out there realize that your not alone if you have not had one, but yes they do exist.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2007):

i've been having the same problem... my partner and i experimented with watching porn to see if breaking taboo would be a turn on, but instead he saw a girl squirt and asked if i'd been faking this whole time... ever since then i've been trying to learn how and i can't get it to work. now i'm facing the facts that it isn't real and that i can't do it. I just trust that my partner will realize that eveyone is different... especially Hollywood and reality!

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A male reader, Peterk5699 United Kingdom +, writes (22 January 2007):

Peterk5699 agony auntAs many of the other "Aunts/uncles" have said: It's not 100% true.

I'm sure not all girls shout out "Holy S*it!!" when they orgasm.

A lot of the squirts are photoshopped etc or done by the woman holding it something like baby oil then releasing it at the time.

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A male reader, christman1 United States +, writes (22 January 2007):

yes it is real you can people call it squrt or something my g/f dose it some times after along time of have sex like for 4 hur then she says stop stop then i keep going then she dose you can feel it comeing.just keep trying it will comm good luck.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2007):

Hey i would just like to say that it can be real but never found out about it till with my current boyfriend! its about relaxing and being really into your partner - i dont do it all the time but when i do it is amazing - but i do it cause i am turned on not cause i want to look like some fake bimbo in a porn movie!!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2007):

That is awesome then. Something I would like to explore with my partner. [grins] A new challenge maybe? 8]

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A reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2007):

I used to think that orgasming like that was faked. Some, I was told, look like it's baby oil...like they hold it in and then release it...also been told it looks like water or urine.

So when I had an experience and thought something was wrong with me...I did research. I thought I was peeing. It was quite embrassing.

A small percent of women can have a squirting orgasm.

http://www.master-your-g-spot.com/squirting_orgasm.html

Yes, I did think it was pee but it turns out it is a mixture...mainly "cum" with traces of urine.

Depending on what erogenous spots are stimulated ...combinations or not...a woman can acheive a squirting orgasm.

I don't always have one of the "liquid" ones.

I tend to get embarassed by them...as it is still something I go...huh over. *shrugs*

Family doc says...it's all good and just relax and be happy.

Hope this helps.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2007):

How does this Anon get her comments approved anyway? I mean seriously. Wherever there's a mention of porn, she's there saying something that doesn't help the question asker. Gross. So gross! It's like having vermin in your cheese cellar.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2007):

Yet ANOTHER example of how porn hurts women....especially young women forming concepts of their bodies and sexuality

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A female reader, x.Helpful.Cupid.x United Kingdom +, writes (20 January 2007):

x.Helpful.Cupid.x agony auntHiya.

Those videos, are not 100% real, so i wouldnt get upset over it. I gurantee you REAL women cant do that. It could be trick filming or even water! Just enjoy sex, and do what YOU can do. Not what the fake porno girls can do!

Good luck Girl!

xx

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A female reader, willywombat United Kingdom +, writes (20 January 2007):

willywombat agony auntIt might just be something to do with the fact that those girls and blokes are ACTORS!! Just because they look like they are orgasming doesn't not mean that they actually are. After all when you see Scarlett Johansson running around dressed up like a 'clone' in 'The Island' (or whatever it was called) doesn't mean she is one, does it?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2007):

First and foremost, I don't think that is quite real. I mean, I've seen erm, girls pee before and well that's more like they're spraying piss, as if they've been holding it in for HOURS... Then again, maybe there are some that are like that. Mind you, I have never seen a female cum like that in person. I would believe that to be too scary.

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A female reader, xx-miss-cupid-xx United Kingdom +, writes (20 January 2007):

xx-miss-cupid-xx agony auntHey x

You know, a lot of the time the orgasms you see in porn are fake. But some girls can do that, but not many.

Porn videos are seriously enhanced to turn viewers on when watching it.

They can take months to get just right.

It doesn't matter how you orgasm. It's the experience that counts...were you happy during the intercourse? That's all that counts.

Good luck!

Cara -x-

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A female reader, vina_101 United Kingdom +, writes (20 January 2007):

vina_101 agony auntYou do know that porn is sometimes fake right? It's like watching any other movie- it has special effects. It's not 100% real. That's the thing with porn it gives us unrealistic (sometimes unattainable) expectations and wants. Appreciate who you are and what you CAN do and stop dwelling on things that you can't do. You're normal (and that's a good thing).

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A female reader, TasteofIndia United States +, writes (20 January 2007):

TasteofIndia agony auntYou know, sweet thang, some girls are squirters. When you see waterfalls of liquid, well - that's probably just a setup. That's not natural. But yes, a handful girls do have lots of liquid come out.

I don't. None of my friends do. It's a random thing that some girls can do, and some can't. Like touching your tongue to your nose... sort of. Okay, not really. But anyhow, I certainly can't squirt. And if you can't... well, you're more normal than those girls in the pornos.

xxIndia

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A female reader, Astrid Spain +, writes (19 January 2007):

Astrid agony auntIt's a film dear it's not true it's fiction and there's nothing but imagination on it, you can do the same as girls in the film and prentend ur having the orgasm of your life to show off it's just a movie

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A female reader, cd206 United Kingdom +, writes (19 January 2007):

cd206 agony auntWhy can't you fall off a ten storey building and live? Why can you never achieve the perfect beauty of your fave film star? Why can't you come like the girls in porn films? Because all of the above are fantasy. There are hours and hours of work into setting up and filming a scene and things are aesthetically adjusted to make a film better. Believe me, you're not different to any of the girls in the film, just less airbrushed.

CD

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A female reader, kaylaadaniels Canada +, writes (19 January 2007):

its real but every girl is not the same. some girls squirt other just drip so it all depends

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