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writes:I've been with my boyfriend for almost two years now, but I can't seem to trust his feelings for me. Before we started going out, I told him that I liked him but he made it clear that he didn't feel the same about me. I'm a pretty shy girl and when I told him I liked him, that was a huge step for me. I was crushed, but I remained friends with him.Months later he tells me he likes me and we start going out. It's going pretty well so far and I love him a lot, but ever since he rejected me that one time I can't seem to trust or believe him when he tells me he loves me. Why can't I accept that he cares about me? What can I do?
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (21 February 2008):
You feel insecure because of that one time he rejected you.You are the only person who can convince yourself that he loves you.Just change your mindset.I guess you are thinking he's going out with you coz he's just lonely.I also rejected my current girlfriend before i came back after 9months to realised she's right for me and she gladly accepted me into her life.Train yourself to think he loves you coz it may create problems in future.
Good Luck.
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reader, jabey  +, writes (20 February 2008):
you look in the mirror. You are pretty you say, a little shy that can be endearing. Now this guy has got to know you and guess what he fell in love with you. why ? because you are special, you are unique, and he loves you for you.
And guess what here comes the cliche."you must love yourself "
You now make a list of all the things you like about yourself, and guess what those are probably the things he lovs. Now think of the things you dont like, can you change those things? i bet you can.
When you realise how wonderful you are, you will fel more secure and confident.
Sometimes when we worry constantly about something that is the thing we bring to ourselves. Whereas if you sit back enjoy the love you are being given, I tell you, you will receive more and more of it.
Sounds like you are very lucky, some people dont get the man they like you got him girl you must be wey hey gorgeous, hold on tight and enjoy the relationshipxxx
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