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anonymous
writes:Has this ever been the case for you:The guy(s) you like aren't interested in you, but the guy(s) you don't like are the ones who are? This seems to hold true for me all the time! I don't know, could it be that because I'm the nice girl, guys who aren't really secure go for me? I'm not unattractive (not an ultimate beauty either) but why don't the guys I want show some interest? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2010): Yes, it often happens to me too. I mainly seem to attract stalkerish obsessive guys, which is pretty scary! It might just be the way things are. Or maybe it is something about our personailites which draw certain people to us. I find it hard to say "no" to people, and to be firm about boundaries. So that could be why it happens to me, certain guys take advantage of that. I don't know really, but it is one possibility.
Maybe some of the guys you have liked in the past have been insecure too? Even nice guys may lack confidence! I guess I would say to just try and approach the guys you like, get talking to them and see if you can develop a friendship or something. But if it doesn't go anywhere, don't despair! I think a lot of people, men and women, experience this dilemma, but people can and do find nice partners. I think there is hope for us all (or at least, I hope there is!) It just might take some time! x
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