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writes:I have been divorced for 3 yrs. I didn't have a great marriage as my ex husband had an affair with his older child's mother. I took him back knowing what was going on and stayed in that crap for 8 yrs. One day I filed for divorced and never looked back. We share two boys together that he NEVER comes to see which is great for me but hurtful to the kids. I met a guy shortly after my divorce and we have been in a bliss ever since. I love this man to the moon and back. We plan on getting married very soon. I have never in my life been this happy. Sometimes I question do I deserve to be this happy. Here is my problem. My ex husband reunited very quickly with his child's mother and they seem to bother me. This women calls my phone for whatever reason as I don't answer. They show up together at my work functions holding hands together. The women even started calling my kids sending them pics of her and my ex together. I have politely asked the ex husband to check into it but, I have a gut feeling he's behind it all. My question: what the heck is going on? He has hurt me dearly so why are they rubbing their relationship in my face? I haven't told my boyfriend because I don't want him to think I have drama after all this time.
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reader, KC12 +, writes (19 September 2014):
 I think your ex is insecure and trying to engage in one-upmanship against you because of your newfound happiness.
I think it's best to just ignore him as best that you can, and tell his mistress (or whatever) to cease and desist from contacting you and your children. I think a lawyer will possibly aid you in a cease and desist order.
Please enjoy your new life with your man, and don't let your ex get into your head. He's only butthurt that you moved on and trying to rain on your parade. ;)
Good luck with your new marriage! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2014): If you are over him why do you care?
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (17 September 2014):
 My gut is telling me whenever your ex husband got with the child's mother, he's doing that to cuff her so no other men could have her. Now he's back with her to get you jealous, to make you less happy when you should be happy about the upcoming wedding. Before, your ex got involved with you to make his ex jealous. When his ex got another man he married you instead. Your ex has issues and can't be with a person for a good reason. It's always an ulterior motive like possessing or pissing someone off. At least that's my guess.
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