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writes:Hi there :) well, i'll get straight to the point.I'm a 15 year old girl, never been kissed, had a boyfriend, yada yada yada, the regular yawn-inducing angst. Anyway, what I was wondering is, why are most of the nice guys dating completely arrogant, narcissistic little bitches? It seems so bloody odd! I mean yeah, they're quite fit in comparison to me, but still.I'm not bad looking, I have huge boobs and wide hips and a nice person. I think that'd the problem. I think I may be too much of a friend... If that's at all possible...It doesn't bother me, I'm quite content for now, these things just puzzle me :) Anyway, thanks muchly for the time xxx
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reader, starguy  +, writes (24 August 2011):
Most boys are very shy and intimidated by girls and women at your age. They are afraid of appearing stupid or getting shot down or rejected, so its far easier never to try, that risk any sort of rejection and humiliation. What if they approached you, and you weren't interested, and then later you laughed about them with your girlfriends, and word got around... and the guy became the laughing joke.
If you want a boyfriend, what you need to do is become more friendly and approachable. Talk to them about things that interest them... that you have in common... guys like video games, cars, airplanes, music, computers, guns, action movies, and so on.
If you can get the message across, that if they asked, you would never reject them, or at least, never tell if you did, and you can talk their language and are interested in the same things they are... boom... you're the hottest girl in school. It has nothing to do with looks, it has to do with... aproachability. Most boys fear girls, as if they were vicious tigers... because lets face it... in high school, girls can and are incredibly clicish and cruel.... well, all kids are.
Looks are only important, in that they make you look more... friendly. Looking like a super model, can and will actually work against you, making you seem even more aloof, unattainable, and ready to destroy a guy's ego with rejection just for kicks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2011): I feel your pain. I have some really amazing guy friends who just blow my mind with their awesomeness/attractiveness, and i think "why haven't they ever asked me out?" but its cause of the friend thing.
and in the end, its a good thing because your relationship is likely to last a lot longer, no awkwardness and of course you can meet other guys through your guy friends :)
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reader, rcn +, writes (9 July 2011):
 We can say then that not only do nice guys finish last, nice girls do as well. I'm not sure why this happens, but I do understand the standing there confused that it does though.
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reader, Julilove  +, writes (9 July 2011):
 well.. I am also a 15 year old girl, in the same problems you are. I think I am beautiful; but most boys dont only get an interest on beauty, but on personality. (Although you seem like a nice person, boys mught be interested in girls who are popular, athletic, bitches and sometimes mean to people). Any way, you are who you are, and never try to be one of those sluts. Boys are looking for girls like them for now. After this age, they will start looking for girls like you and me!
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