A
female
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:Dear Cupid,today is the first day I finally step back in church.I want to get my life together and I know that it will be the best thing I ever did in my life.I'm changing my life in order to be a better person for me and my children but I have alot of negative people in my life such as my own siblings I love the but that act like I am the black sheep of the family I'm doing what I suppose to do I am a caregiver to my mom no help from them I am going to school part time and I'm looking for work on Saturdays and Sundays.Everything I do they always have something negative to say.For example I could say oh I really want to go back to work and do something for myself then my sister would say they aren't going to hire u or I ask her to take me to the interview she will say she is busy when she's really not I was thinking about leaving my siblings alone and surround my self with positive people.What should I do ? Reply to this Question
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reader, Ciar  + ♥, writes (8 December 2014):
 Don't sever ties with them. They are your family after all, but limit your involvement with them to that which is most beneficial.
My mum has observed similar behaviour with her own kin. It's not they they think so low of her and want her to fail, but I think they can't believe anyone who came from the same place they did can ever be more than what they are. They don't think outside the box so they don't understand how anyone else can. So, she just doesn't tell them things that matter to her. Sad, but it is what it is.
Save the good news for positive people who can appreciate what you're doing and encourage you in your efforts. Save the family for birthdays and Christmas dinners.
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