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13-15,
shy but sweet
writes:well heres the storyi have been going out with this guy for a few months now and hes really sweet and all. the problem is my friendsat first it was all fine but then my best friend, lets call her sarah, started to cause trouble. she constantly told me to dump him and she started saying that he fancied her. i asked him and he said he used to before he knew me but he didnt anymore and i dont think he'd lie to me. she then went further and said to one of my other best friends that the only reason he was going out with me was to make her jealous!! i knew this was a total lie so i just ignored it all.now she's after starting a fight with me. when i asked her why she was mad at me she said it was because i never stuck up for her when my boyfriend slagged her and that i was spreading rumours about her.i told her that (1) he never slagged her and if he did it was never when i was there and she never told me about it so how could i stick up for her??(2) i never spread any rumours about her and no one has ever heard any rumours about her so where did she get that from??she just ignored me and went n saying that i did and now shes turned all of my friends in my school against me. :(:(:(i dont know what to do!! can anybody help me??
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2008): wow. dont u just hate teenage girls sometimes. this girl 'sarah' sounds like a bitch. Maybe its better your not friends anymore, and that you have been able to open your eyes to see how she can be. Then again, its awful if she has turned everyone against u and its not true. Speak to your bf or mom about it. On top of everything though, you need to speak to 'sarah' in order to get to a better stage with her (doesnt mean u have 2 be best friends again, you just need to come to terms in order to be able to be polite to each other at least!) then if your kind of friends again and u just stay polite, ur other friends will come back to you hopefully rite? and then you can explain to them what really happned and that your sorry you lost them over something so crazy
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reader, rhythmandblues2  + ♥, writes (24 March 2008):
 Hi, If your so called friend is trying to start rumors about you and exclude you from your peer group by making this a popularity power play, she is trying to exert control, she is a bully.
Tell a trusted adult at your school what you are going through, maybe a favorite teacher or a school counselor or speak with a parent. It isn't right what she is doing but it is the way girls bully other girls.
She is behaving like a jerk, and some of you other friends are probably good kids that are just going along with her to keep from being a victim of bullying themselves....at the very least don't fight back with talking about her behind her back, rumors have a way of dieing out if you just ignore them and go about your business....You are a tough age, kids can be mean to each other, but she is just jealous of you, so try and be the bigger person and don't fight with her....just speak to an adult that can intervene....
Hang in there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): I am in almost the same problem . I met my boyfriend through My friend on line and she said she kinda liked him but wasn't sure, I got his number and we started talking and things just clicked. she got mad and threatened to stop being my friend and other non-sense it was hoorible. I loved him(still do and still going strong) but I didn't want to lose her as a friend . She told me I had to choose. But I just talked to her and we are still friends but noit as great as we used to be. I can never talk about him to her and thats hard because she used to be the one I used to tell everything to. Maybe you should talk it out and explain to your friend you'd like to still be her friend and have him too . Or you may have to choose between the two of them but I hope it doesn't come to that. like I said I've beeen through it and it isn't fun and it's not really fair of your friend to be that way. shouldn't she be happy 4 you? I hope my story helped you in some way. :)Good luck *~VG~*
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