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writes:My boyfriend of 6 months is a tattoo artist and I have noticed that some girls like to be naked for their tattoo appointment, and even if the design is being placed on their lower back they want to take their pants off, which I don’t quite understand.Am I not supposed to be upset? He has constantly said that he thinks nothing of it, but he must think I'm stupid, they’re still naked or just in their underwear. He must get turned on. Maybe I should end it with him before he rips my heart in two?I hear that lots people cheat and are into partner swapping in the tattoo industry. Am I just overreacting or am I right?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (12 October 2014):
 I think you are over-reacting. I also dont think women get undressed more than they feel is necessary, and you are imagining things. Also, you assume a lot. Why would he get turned on by these women? It's not like a guy gets turned on by all women he sees, they're not mindless humping machines. That's just as silly as thinking YOU are getting turned on each time you see a man in his boxers. Beer gut and all.
You do know 50 year old women who've had 5 kids also get tattoo's, right? Do you really mean to say you think they strip off because they got the hots for him, and do you really think he gets a hard on by it? It's his job. I have a feeling he's probably thinking more about his WORK, inking the skin permanently, than thinking about how much clothes the person is wearing.
When you enter a relationship you agree to take the risk of breaking your heart. No relationship is risk free. Old farts with no looks also cheat, you know. Profession and appearance is irrelevant.
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reader, bronzed adonis +, writes (10 October 2014):
 I doubt very much that any of the females involved are taking off more clothing than necessary.
If they are having a tattoo in an intimate place, then they will have to, but I don`t believe females remove their bra, when having a tattoo on their upper arm etc.
You`re probably not the right type of person to be in a relationship with a tattooist.
Just imagine what it would be like being married to a Gynaecologist?
I believe what he told you about not thinking anything, and I don`t believe he would be able to tattoo and be turned on at the same time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2014): The least amount of clothing in the way, the less likely you'll stain clothing with ink, blood, or it will get in the way of the artist while working. Clothing can cause irritation or smear the artwork. Most female clothing is tight or close-fitting (which causes a lot of bleeding); and if he is working on a large surface-area; or on a lower portion of a person's body (male or female), the artist usually suggests you make yourself comfortable. They ask you to remove restrictive or constrictive garments that may get in his or her way, or hinder free-movement. People who like bold or extensive body-art aren't modest about nudity.
If you're going to hang around the guy's workplace, maybe you need to get a grip! If someone is paying $500.00 for a tattoo and you're distracting the artist; a biker-type will not be nice to him, or you.
In fact, no one getting something indelibly placed on their skin is going to deal with girlfriend-drama when they should really be in a private booth, or behind a curtain anyway. If the place is a decent one, you can't see the clients while work is in progress. The least amount of distraction for the artist the better.
Your boyfriend is likely to have some wild and flirty clients. Biker chicks, rockers, goths, college girls, and a variety of females from all walks of life. If you're the jealous-type, you've picked the wrong boyfriend; because people get tattoos allover.
That includes their genitalia. He is applying art that cannot be easily corrected, and it could take hours. He is a man, and he is human. He has to concentrate on his work, or he will have a very unhappy customer. He doesn't want to piss-off or lose customers; because he's nervous that he might upset you; because some lady wants it on her right boob, or left butt cheek.
Guys who choose tattoo artistry for a profession aren't exactly the guy next-door type; so go find yourself one if you going to be giddy about girls disrobing in-front of your boyfriend. If you make too much fuss, it's likely he'll dump you; if you can't deal with it. He's got to pay the bills, and that's his livelihood.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2014): It's been six months, why don't you trust him? Has he done anything to trigger this mistrust? Or is it issues you are carrying forward from past relationships? It's not fair on the guy if you're getting funny with him for doing his job - so if you know you can't handle it then you'll have to end it.
But let's be realistic, his job is to tattoo people. He is going to, at some points in his job, tattoo boobs, butts and everything above and below! Tattoos bloody hurt, so I can't imagine a woman thinking she'll have her way with him when she's been in so much pain. Often people have tattoos in quite personal places because they don't want it always on show. That sometimes means they're going to have to have untied bikini bottoms or tops so their clothing doesn't get in the way. Why split up with him when you don't have any proof he's interested in other women? It's only been 6 months you should still be having fun and not worrying about this mind of stuff.
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reader, WhenCowsAttack  +, writes (10 October 2014):
I'll be honest, I don't think you're cut out to be with a tattoo artist. This is his career, and he's going to spend it tattooing butts, boobs, and even the occasional labia or dick. If you can't handle this you probably need a guy with a profession that requires less intimate contact with other people.
And yes, a tattoo on the lower back requires underwear off. Underwear can ride up and if it gets in the way, you've ruined a $500 tattoo.
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reader, kirra07  +, writes (10 October 2014):
I think you are jumping to conclusions here. First of all, you said lower back. Many pants and underwear would go up to the lower back area. So they actually would legitimately be in the way. And I don't think that the girls are planning anything (most likely) during a tattoo session. They're probably just trying to get through the pain. And your bf is probably pretty focused on his job - tattooing. If he was so distracted by these naked women he would probably be doing some bad tattoos. Also, by your reasoning, any guys that do work with scantily clad women must be turned on by them? Meaning doctors, some photographers, masseurs, bikini waxers, etc cannot be professional and must be turned on by the women simply because they are wearing no pants? It's ultimately up to you whether you can accept that he will be around girls that have no pants on. But it is his job and he seems to be acting fine to me.
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