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Why? And how should I handle the fact that my brother deliberately ignores me?

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Question - (30 December 2015) 3 Answers - (Newest, 1 January 2016)
A female United Kingdom age 22-25, anonymous writes:

My brother and I used to be very close but now for some reason he doesn't even speak to me.

At school he always pretends he doesn't know me, for example, My Dad sent me a message that I needed to pass onto my brother, so at the end of the day I tried to tell him and he obviously heard me but he walked right passed me and acted like he didn't know me.

He also leaves the house ages after me when walking to school and I once said to him "it's like your leaving late so you won't be seen anywhere near me" and he said "that is why I'm leaving late". I was quite hurt by what he said so I stopped making an effort to speak to him because he just didn't care about anything I had to say.

And once my friend said to him "You're such a bad brother" and then he said to his friend "well maybe if she wasn't such a bad sister". I don't understand him I always made an effort to be nice and kind to him and he just didn't care. On Christmas Day he said one thing to me and that wasn't even directly to me. He doesn't look at me or speak to me but he speaks to all of my other sisters.

Is he embarrassed to have me as a sister? He even once said to me "why were you even born?" because he was mad at me for sitting in his favourite chair! It just hurts and makes me so upset. Am I being too sensitive? I just don't understand!

Thanks for reading and I hope you all have a happy new year!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2016):

You're Brother is a Jerk. Stop speaking to him all together. Pretend he doesn't exist.

I have two brothers. I'm close with one and don't really get along with the other. Just because you have the same parents doesn't mean anything. If he's a toxic person and not nice to you then cut him out of your life.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (30 December 2015):

Honeypie agony auntYour brother is being an asshat. Quite simply.

I'd pretend it doesn't hurt your feelings when he ignores you. That way his little "game" isn't working.

If you HAVE to pass on a message to him at school and he tries to ignore you, just tell him - Hey do you want me to REALLY embarrass you? or will you listen to the message from dad?

There is something going on, either you get better grades? Have more friends? or you are the annoying little sister ( trust me, I was one once too .) My brother is 3 years older than me and I would ignore me in school, we never went to school at the same time (I usually left earlier than him, because I can't stand being late). Sometimes we would be best buds, other time we would fight like cat and dog.

In my late teen we became very close and have been ever since. It will change.

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A female reader, Songwr1ter United Kingdom +, writes (30 December 2015):

He is being very immature, and that's not fair on you.

Maybe he's just having a rough time..maybe it's just a phase? You obviously live together, so try talking to him alone, and if that doesn't work, then tell your parents.

The things that he is saying aren't nice, and definitely need to be dealt with. "Why were you even born" who says that to their own sister??

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