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Why am I so selfish?

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Question - (23 March 2009) 1 Answers - (Newest, 23 March 2009)
A female United States age 36-40, *rinn86 writes:

Im 22 and I have been in a relationship for a little over two years, but lately i have started to realize that i am being selfish.

My boyfriend is beginning to get fed up with me...he pointed out today that i dont do anything for him, simple things mostly...i just dont know where this selfishness comes from.

I hate to blame him for my past ex's mistakes but sometimes i do. Ive had so much taken from me in relationships and the one time I find someone that is good to me, i treat him wrong. I love him so much and I cant imagine my life with out him in it.

This is my first love and i dont want to push him away. He does everything in the world for me and I only do some...he believes that im not ready for love and that maybe we met too young.

He is contemplating that we need time apart and i just dont know what to do.

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A female reader, Emilysanswers United Kingdom +, writes (23 March 2009):

Well while you are figuring out your own psychology, make some bloody effort!

Make him cups of tea, offer to pay for dinner, do some housework at his place, give him a back rub without asking for one back.

You say it's little things so DO some little things and then when he's asleep you can sit and analyse yourself and figure all this out while knowing that he's not going to leave because he can see you've changed.

Good Luck!! xx

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