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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I have problems getting close to people. Like there are these two girls one I've been friends with for 11 years and weve always helped each other out, the other for 6 years, same scenario. But when they tell me they love me and that we are best friends I never know how to react- like I love them too but I kind of dont feel like a good friend sometimes, like I'm not worthy of the title "best friend" and when it comes to guys the more I like a guy the more I avoid him. In fact I spent the last 4 years with a guy that didnt mean that much to me, I loved him and all but never they way I should have. Then there was this guy who I really liked a lot... I stopped seeing him just because I didnt want to disappoint him later when he found out that I'm really not all that great of a person. I dont know why I'm so insecure. Its like I dont want to fall in love completely and then him leave and I'd be shattered. So I stick to guys I dont fully love so when they leave I can just shrug it off. Why am I so weird???
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reader, ange1ange1 +, writes (2 July 2009):
first of all im not sure why your weird..lol..but on the serious side part of this can come from low self-esteem and a lack of confidence in yourself... and i've noticed at the end when you said that you stick to guys you dont fully love so when they leave i can just shrug it off, it seems to me that you are scared of getting hurt also... my advice in a religious point of view would be to pray to god, in jesus name, and ask him to take it away from you...and give it time.. you will grow out of it..hope this helps...
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