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writes:Lately I've been feeling very out of it. I feel overwhelmed by things that shouldn't bother me at all, I feel like all my thoughts and feelings are backing up on me. Tonight me and my gf were having a good evening just hanging out. When we saw the Democratic Convention on TV I started talking about some of my political views. She seems very held back about it. She then told me she doesn't like talking about politics because she gets very angry when she does. For some reason I couldn't understand this bothered me a lot. I became very quite and aloof and she asked me what was wrong. Proceeded to tell her that it bothered me but I couldn't quite explain how. I then got upset and made some negative comments about myself, mostly pertaining to how I felt like an idiot for getting so upset over nothing. One of my exclamations was quite intense and seemed to really upset her. I instantly felt bad and am now regretting the whole incident. What's wrong with me? Why am I having this kinds of feelings?
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reader, abbeymom  +, writes (29 August 2008):
 First go to your girlfriend, tell her you are sorry for the other night for the negative comments you made about yourself and for the situation.Then try talking to her about what you are feeling. I know maybe not so easy, but easier than you think. People cloud and get mixed up with what they are trying to say because they often worry how it will reflect on the other person.When I'm down in the dumper because of the reasons the two posters above mentioned. I tell my hubby. I feel like crap. I have negative feelings right now. I don't know why. Sometimes I'm sad. I feel upset about silly things.Talk point blank. Say what you mean and mean what you say so to speak.I always tell hubby. I don't want you to fix me. I don't want you to feel upset I'm upset (though he does) that's a given. I just needed to tell you. Sometimes just talking to him makes me feel better.Another things I do, strange I know but try it. I get a pen, piece of paper and start writing down point form all the things that bug me.Have no moneyKids bug meHate fighting with my sonAnd so forth. Eventually I get to a point where my emotions grow deeper as I write the point down and suddenly I realize what's bugging me and then I can deal with it. Process of elimination.Bottom line. Above two posters are correct. Don't be so hard on yourself. We all have good days, bad days, days we yell for no reason, say something we might not mean or do something stupid. The important thing is to forgive, deal with it and move on to the next day.Carry it over and your' back will just hurt.Good luck!~ Abbeymom
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reader, pepper27  + ♥, writes (29 August 2008):
 Hi Hunny
Like the last post said stress of everyday life, lack of sleep, maybe not eating properly hun you could be trying to do to much and its all got to you...
Meditation and relaxation is of utmost importance in todays life style, Many many people out there get involved with so much thats going on in the world that it overtakes there whole being. You have to make quiet time reflecting time for you..Take some time out from everything if you can for 30mins or 15mins a day lie down put some relaxing music on and dont think of anything that worrys you dont think of you...Picture something beautiful in your head and go with it...Relaxing like this will just slow you down a little slow your brain down love. And hopefully certain things wont upset you so much..I hope you feel better soon with love mandy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, superrrshawna +, writes (29 August 2008):
 stress? lack of sleep? something that is bothering you that you aren't confronting? internal imbalance? wrong nutrition? the weather?
there are so many reasons that people get moody or overwhelmed.
take an hour or two and just turn everything off. turn everyone away. sit yourself down in a quiet nonstressful organized place, and write everything down. what you like in your life and what improvements you need to make. write out all those thoughts and feelings and then think them over one at a time at your own leisurely pace.
everyone needs a little alone time, and everyone needs to make lists sometimes. to connect with everything that's going on in their head. it's like reaching out and counting your toes to make sure they're all there. =]
be kind to yourself. your gf cares a lot about you and i know from experience that when girls see someone they love talking negatively about themselves it hurts us just as much as it hurts you.
take care!
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