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Why am I afraid of loving him? He's serious about me and the chemistry is intense

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Question - (28 October 2016) 2 Answers - (Newest, 28 November 2016)
A female South Africa age 26-29, *azy H writes:

Why am I afraid of loving him? I met him a year and 5 months ago at a salon were he did my hair I remember we had such a great conversion as he was busy with my hair, after that he asked to call me and he took my number from the register, ever since than he has been calling me fetching me taking me to work and buying me all these nice stuff I really didn't like him back than just he's company he told me he has feelings for me and he wants to be with me and I told him we can be together, thing is everything has been so nice I'm always happy, he understands me so bad.

We haven't had sex yet and he said he will wait which he has been waiting for a long he wants me to meet the parents and he is talking about marriage there is so much chemistry its scary and we've both waited so long I'm nervous to have sex with him but I'm scared and I don't know what to do because I'm falling inlove. He is amazing and he is so driven and inspires me in so many ways not mention we both have crazy personalities I just don't know why I'm so scared please help

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A female reader, melancholyholls United States +, writes (28 November 2016):

melancholyholls agony auntI think you need to just relax and focus on what makes you happy. It sounds like you're focusing a lot on what other people are doing and thinking, but you need to take a step back, relax, and think about what you're doing and wanting. Do you want to be with this guy? Do you think that you two being together would make you happier? Whatever you chose, make sure it's what you want. If you think about dating this guy and it makes you nervous, and not dating him makes you calmer, try to find out why that is. Dating may just be something new to you, and if that's the reason you're so nervous about dating him, go for it! Try new things. He sounds like a good guy, and this all may be new to you and it may make you uncomfortable, but we've all got to try new things. Just do whatever makes you the happiest

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland + , writes (28 October 2016):

aunt honesty agony auntYou are falling in love with him, you are afraid that someone is going to burst your bubble and ruin everything. You just lack confidence slightly and you are wondering why everything is going so good. Try and relax. You deserve to be happy. It sounds like you have found yourself a keeper. Just remember you deserve to be happy so allow yourself to feel the happiness.

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