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Who could this strange woman be who showed up asking questions about me?

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Question - (15 June 2017) 6 Answers - (Newest, 16 June 2017)
A female Canada age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Can anyone help me make sense of this situation?

I live in a house. I rent the downstairs portion.

My landlord who owns the home told me that this morning a woman knocked on his door asking questions about me. I was not home at the time. She asked if I live there, how many people live with me and where I work? She said I had applied for an event and they were doing a background check. It all seems odd to me. I did not apply for any event. My landlord said she did not wish to identify herself. And he told her to contact me directly if she had any questions. That he was not at liberty to disclose any information, especially since she did not identify herself or the purpose of her visit.

Now, I did not pay my rent for one month because I lost my job. I have since started paying my rent on time. But I still owe my landlord $850 which I am paying back in installments. My friend told me he made up the story to scare me. I am not sure why he would invent a story like this at all? How would it benefit him?

I am just trying to make sense of this. If it was law enforcement, they would have to identify themselves. I am quite sure I have not broken any laws. The landlord said it could be creditors. If I owe money somewhere or a private investigator on behalf of creditors or somebody might be suing me. I am not sure what this all means???

Some strange woman coming to where I live, asking questions about me and not identifying herself.

I am feeling worried and a little afraid.

Can anyone give me suggestions as to who this could be?

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A female reader, CindyCares Italy + , writes (16 June 2017):

CindyCares agony aunt I would exclude that this visit is your landlord's invention, why should he have concocted such a story ?, it does not benefit him in any way.. Why would your landlord want to scare you ? his interest is not in scaring you away, but in fact in making sure that you stay where you are until he's got all what you owe him back !

It can't be a police or FBI investigation because they would have HAD to identify themselves.

A private eye ?.. well, I am a big fan of classic detective stories, and I must say that this is exactly what Nero Wolfe's Archie Goodwin, or Perry Mason's Paul Drake, would have done... chatting up a landlord ,using some lame excuse, to try and get the dirt on you. But these stories were written several decades ago, before all the privacy infringement laws. Plus, a professional could probably get more info about you, and faster, using the Web than calling on your landlord...

It seems this is an amateur sleuth, so it could only be a personal , not professional/ social , matter. How's your love life ? Are you dating someone who may be married / partnered ? Or someone with a clingy ex ? Some ex rival of yours who holds a grudge ?..

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (16 June 2017):

Honeypie agony auntI agree with YCBS,

Just tell your landlord to next time take a picture or call the police.

I can't see any company owed money who would send out a private investigator who doesn't identify herself. And no law enforcement either.

Unless your landlord is making it up, HE did the right thing in NOT giving out any information.

Have you applied for disability? A government job? Have you been in the military? Those were the only things I can see someone doing an actual "foot on the ground" background check for.

UNLESS you have had an affair with a married man and this woman is either looking to question you on behalf of the wife (in a divorce case) or you have someone trying to track you down but not wanting you to know.

For now, though I wouldn't worry too much. why? Because there is nothing you can do.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2017):

Did you apply for any benefits through the government? They sometimes send investigators.

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A female reader, Youcannotbeserious United Kingdom + , writes (16 June 2017):

Youcannotbeserious agony auntHave you had any affairs? Could it be a wife/girlfriend trying to make trouble? Could it be a girlfriend of an ex trying to make trouble?

All sounds very iffy. If they were there on official business, they would have identified themselves. Either your landlord IS making it up (who knows why!) or it was someone up to no good.

No use speculating. Sit back and see if they try anything else. Tell your landlord, if they show up again, to take a photograph or call police. That should help.

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A male reader, Denizen United Kingdom +, writes (16 June 2017):

Denizen agony auntJust be patient. Whatever it is will turn up sooner or later. You can imagine all sorts of things but it is best to push it aside and see if anything develops later.

It sounds to me if it were anything to do with any official department they would have shown ID as a matter of course.

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A male reader, judgedick France +, writes (16 June 2017):

judgedick agony aunti think he did not make up the story as he does not want you running away with out paying , as for this woman have no ides

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