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writes:Ok so let me start from the beginning. About four months ago I separated from a 10 year marriage where it was not a good place and my ex was not a nice person to be around. Then about a month later I started with online dating apps and met a few nice girls and had some fun. Then when I was getting bored with it all and was about to give up for a while I met this woman and we hit it off from the get go. We had heaps in common and when we first met for a few drinks one night sparks just flew, we both felt instantly connected.Now some background on my new partners part, when we met she was in a bad place in her marriage to her husband. They had been together for 9 years and married for 3 months. He is a sex and drug addict and she had recently found out less then a month after they were married that he had been cheating on her and having unprotected sex with other men and women for the whole nine years they had been together. So she felt hurt by it all and wanted to try the online dating on the side as she thought it would make her feel better if she got back at him. But what we both didn't expect when we first made contact with each other was how well things would go between us. After a long term relationship I was definitely not after anything serious and all she was after was a bit of fun. But one thing led to another and we both fell for each other hard. Now fast forward the two months we have been together. I couldn't be happier and she tells me the same, she has left her husband and we spend every spare second we have together. Things have moved very very quickly with us. She got her own place, and I was over there all the time with her. So after a week she asked me to move in. I thought that this was a little too soon but after thinking about how I feel about her and how I know she says she feels about me. We took that step, and have been living together for 4 weeks now. And we couldn't be happier. I have managed to have a nice clean break with my ex as I have moved to another state, but my partner still gets messages and calls from her ex which it just seems like he is trying to mess with her head and it breaks my heart to see her that way. But she won't break ties completely as she got very attached to his daughter and still wants to be a part of her life. But I can see that when she goes over to see her and has to deal with her ex and his constant texts and calls she comes home so depressed and unhappy. I know all I can do is just be there for her but I just wish there was something else I could do for her.I know things have moved very very quickly and has been a whirlwind of a relationship so far but I can't imagine my life without her and when we are not together I miss her so much I just want to see her. My only concern is that we have only bonded due to our circumstances and it's just going to be a short term relationship after we have both gotten over our past relationships and go our separate ways. we have both talked to each other about this and we both believe that will not happen but feelings change over time and you never know where you will be and how you will feel 1 month or 1 year down the track.I don't know if I really have any questions about it all, this is just to get some outside opinions on the whole scenario.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2016): Why are you overthinking when everything is going fine? Just take things as they come and be grateful that you have her in your life right now to share all your happiness with. If things change they change but don't miss out on the beauty of what you have right now because you're overly concerned with the future.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (15 November 2016):
 She was only married three months? That raises red flags with me. Look if she is not going to let go off his daughter then she is not going to fully let go off him. What age is the daughter? Why not just change her number to a new one and then she can call the daughter on a private number? Am sorry but am not sure if she is ready to fully let go off him yet. She might be saying she is but her actions say something else.
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