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Which woman understands me best? I feel more love for this second woman. What should I do

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Question - (25 October 2012) 3 Answers - (Newest, 14 November 2012)
A male South Africa age 36-40, anonymous writes:

i have a baby with someone and i stay with her, but the problem is i have beendating someone else, for more than a year now.

The other woman and I love one another so so much.

It is like my first relationship ever ,we talk ,we laugh and we understand one another so so much what must i do to make her part of my life forever.

So Iam confused and it hurts me because she understands what kind of persom i am.

please assist

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A female reader, truelover69 United States +, writes (14 November 2012):

i say you shuld def leave the babys mothr.. it isnt right to do that to your love intrest even if shes aware of this situatuon your in and knows about the babys mother.. youre i agree with the other two answers on here you defenitley should go and be veyr happy with the other woman y=ho you truly love and who truly loves and understands you too ,togethet you bot can have your own family and be married if you desire that ad from the soudns of thigns it sounds like this is what your heart truly wants too . you shoukd let go of the babys mother and go with the other woman who is the one for you! and yes still remain in your childs life of course! and be a great dad! and it can be done and also agreeing with the first answer on here, you WILL end up doig irren=versiable damage to your child if he /she grows up in a hime wiht two parnts that are not raising teir child in a healthy environment! and so you love your child ,he/she will be much better off not being re=aised in an environment liek that anywa you wil be doing good for yoruself and for the bst intrst of your child at the same time so i see this as the ony possible soultion for you making yoru self very happy by leaving y=the babys mother and also keeping yoru child in a healthy mindset and not raising it on falsities ona relationship between you and the mother when ts ot based on true love it will only hurt your hild in the lond run.. your child would much rather see his oir her dad hay somewhere else than fighting and miserable down th eroad with th its birth mother.. hope this helps you do the right thing by everyen involved and leave the mother and so your happoy , your child is happy in the longrun and your baby mother has a chance to meet someone else to be as hapy as you ans your love intrest is..

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2012):

Do the right thing and leave your baby's mum. Let her have the opportunity to meet someone that can love her and be loyal. You could not possibly care about your baby's mum or you would not have been unfaithful

Its best yourll part ways , and hopefully you can at least be a good dad.

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A female reader, Zaaleena United States +, writes (25 October 2012):

It sounds like you are only staying with the first woman because you have child together and this really isn't the basis for a relationship.

It will cause resentment and possibly impact on the child as it grows up as a negative parental issue can affect someone a lot.

If you are so in love with the second woman I think you should leave and be in a relationship with her. This would mean you would be happy and mother of your baby would also have the chance to find someone who understands her as much as you understand your love interest.

However the fact that you have been conducting 2 relationships for an extended period of time is telling.

Does your 'other' woman (as you put it) know that you're still in a relationship?

Hope you do whats right for you

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