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writes:My friend asked me to advise him to settle with one girl. He has two girl friends,One loves him so much, she calls him every minute, even check on him at home any time and help his family at times to cook or washes his closes.The other girl friend, calls him twice a week, visit him once after two weeks, hardly come home to visit his family and very selfish. Both ladies have agreed to marry him but he intends to marry one. He asked me "which one should I marry, the one who shows she loves me or the one who doesn't show much interest in him?" I asked him whom he loves among the two and he told me he loves more the one who shows no interest in him. If you were a friend too, what would you advise him to do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2011): This is quite odd to be frank. If he can be nice to the girl who already helps out and is interested in his life then he should marry her but only if he will be a good person to her, she does not deserve to be treated badly or taken for granted amd it sounds to me as if she will be.
So I would caution him to think about what marriage is all about and that he needs to treat his wife well and really love her.
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reader, cupidus  +, writes (7 June 2011):
 This is some fable or zen question right?
If not you as a friend should warn both girls that your friend is an indecisive, crazy man.
Common, you've got to be kidding "she washes his cloths"???
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reader, The Realist +, writes (7 June 2011):
 I just wanted to ask because it may clear the air on why he has two girls like this. Is it customary of your culture to have the women be chosen solely by the man where they will essentially compete for his marriage? I think it would help people answer the question.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2011): Neither. If you're going to marry someone you should know 100% who you want to be with. This "friend" asking you who he should marry is absurd.
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reader, fi_the_tree  +, writes (6 June 2011):
 chigirl - great answer!! Made me laugh!!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (6 June 2011):
 The one who doesn't show as much interest. It is important to keep a personal life, especially if he's going to keep up his two faced life style.
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reader, The Realist +, writes (6 June 2011):
I would say that he should go with the one who loves him and who is obviously commited to him. You haven't described any positive reason why he would even consider the other girl. It sounds like he just loves the one who is giving him a harder time to get.
He should definitely marry the one who has shown her love to him.
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