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Where Can I Find A Guy To Date Casually?

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Question - (15 February 2017) 4 Answers - (Newest, 21 February 2017)
A female United Kingdom age 22-25, anonymous writes:

I moved to a new city recently so don't know too many people outside work (I do have lovely good friends, but they're mostly older women who can't introduce me to many guys) and not many single guys my age. I'm inexperienced with guys too, never actually had a proper boyfriend too.

I'm moving away at the end of summer but I want something really casual, not friends with benefits but to date a bit up here for fun. I was thinking going on an online dating site or something but I heard it's a meat market and though I'm attractive I'm paranoid about privacy and putting my pics up there.

Any apps/sites/ideas people would recommend for meeting guys my age to casually date? I joined the gym, where the odd guy does smile and wink... but I'm a bit shy and don't want to be that girl hitting on all the guys there too!

Thank you :)

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland + , writes (21 February 2017):

aunt honesty agony auntGo for online dating, I know plenty off couples who have met that way. Yes I know you said you didn't want anything serious but just write that on your profile and meet in a public place. You have nothing to lose.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2017):

Well you kind of pigeon holed yourself.

Just from a guy's standpoint, you aren't giving much reason to men to give you a second look.

I mean I'm just being honest,i read what you want, and it's like you just want to meet a guy who takes you out, whenever you feel like it, don't want sex, or anything serious.

It's almost the opposite of what chicks are always bagging on dudes for, they only want to take u out to get laid, well this sounds like you only want to be taken out, since your bouncing soon. You don't want to get to know them or anything.

Maybe if you mean something more, you should clarify, cause from what I read, good luck, you're probably not going get many guys who just want to casually date a girl,and if they do, you'd better re evaluate your outlook towards other things. But what do I know, I'm simply 1 man, I certainly don't speak for all of them.

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A female reader, Youcannotbeserious United Kingdom + , writes (15 February 2017):

Youcannotbeserious agony auntI think as long as you are honest and up front about not wanting anything serious, just casual dating, then internet dating could work for you. All I would say is be very VERY careful about letting guys know where you live or work, in case they turn out to be stalkers. Always meet in public and let friends know where you are going. Perhaps get someone to phone you at a set time to make sure you are ok?

What about smiling back at the guys in the gym if you like the look of any of them and just saying "hi"? No need to "hit" on them, just be friendly and, with any luck, they will hit on you.

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A female reader, singinbluebird United States + , writes (15 February 2017):

singinbluebird agony auntSure, try Okcupid, POF, or Tinder. There are wonderful dating sites out there, I cant even promote dating sites enough.

How else can you meet a variety of cool people from all walks of life, all types of careers, throughout the entire city??? Only through dating sites! Not at bars, clubs, etc.

Yes you can still date people you meet at these places but online dating is the future and present.

I've met hundreds of people from online dating, its been enriching and fun, and what a great way to find out who you are and what you enjoy/like and allow these people opportunity to do same thing too. I also made best friends for life as well

Its fun and keep it light casual. If you are not seeking anything serious, disclose it on your profile and meet everyone! I did, it was wonderful. Good luck on your journey!

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