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writes:I have a problem. I have a friend who does things I feel are wrong, but when I discuss it with her she lies about it or says it is none of my business. But it bothers me so much, I have begun to ignore her. I feel guilty about it, but don't know what to do.What my friend does what offends me is what she does with men. 1-She has had 2 relationships with married men. I find this offensive because I have seen how adultery has destroyed families and I find it hurtful that she is a part of this. I keep thinking about the wife. The man who she recently had the affair with has no kids, but does have a wife who does not know. It is true his marriage has been rocky but he still lives with his wife and writes on his twitter that he loves her and tells about the things they do together.2-Also, my friend leads men on so that they do things for her. She is not interested in them but she flirts with them, and gets them to do things for her. I feel that she uses people. One older man who just lost his wife asked her out (she is very attractive). She rebuffed him. But she contacted him again and said she was thinking of him, so he asked her out for drinks. I thought she was playing with his heart. She tells me it is none of my business, it is her private life, maybe some of your agree. But I cant help beign offended. Am I wrong and too judgmental??? Thank you for your thoughts.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (23 December 2010):
 You have a clear moral code that you use to govern your behaviour and evaluate the behaviour of those around you. It's not judgmental to evaluate someone's behaviour as inconsistent with your concept of right and wrong.
Clearly you're not going to change her. From my perspective, I wouldn't care to spend time with someone, let alone call them a friend, when their idea of right and wrong is fundamentally different than mine.
Just my two cents.
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reader, the_phoenic  +, writes (23 December 2010):
I personally think that you are starting to like this girl more than a friend
And i warn you she sounds like nothing but trouble
And again i feel like she suffers from hpd "histrionic personality disorder"
So try to get her of your head mate
Trust me i had an emotional affair with an hpd that has been nothing but a rusty train wreck and i suffered from depression because of it
Visit this site it well help allot
www.psychforums.com
Good luck
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