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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hey, I'd love some advice (esp. from any male readers) about first dates. I had my first date in 8 1/2 years on Saturday (split with my bf of 8 years 6 months ago, took a long time to feel better and get the confidence to date again). We talked for ages, had lots in common, time flew by, he was good-looking, interesting, occasionally subtley flirty but a real gentleman. Anyway, we lost track of time and kinda had to hurry to get home, so it all finished quite abruptly, with him saying he'd really enjoyed the day and that he wants us to keep in touch. When I got home, he'd emailed to say he was annoyed that we both had to dash off, couldn't believe how quickly time had gone by, that it had been great to meet me, and that it would be great to keep in touch. I replied the next morning to say it had been great to meet him too. Then he emailed today telling me about his weekend and asking me about mine.So, I'm wondering - when will it be clear whether he wants to actually see me again or not? I'd really like to spend some more time with him (just to see what happens-hopefully we could develop a friendship if nothing romantic), but don't know how to play this. I'm thinking of keeping in touch as before and waiting for him to suggest meeting up again. If he does not suggest this, should I?Thanks for your advice, and sorry if this all sounds stupid-guess I'm just out of practice. x
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (4 May 2010):
 If he e-mailed you telling you about his wek end eyc. it means he is interested, otherwise he would not have bothered.
Be patient. Don't jump the gun. Your first date was just Saturday.Way to early to worry.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (3 May 2010):
Give it three days. If he has not suggested something by then, then you suggest something. If he says yes, then you'll know that he's still interested. If he replies with anything else, then he's not interested. For what it's worth, I think he sounds like he's interested in at least getting to know you a lot more. Usually if a guy isn't interested he won't bother keeping contact at all.
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