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female
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51-59,
anonymous
writes:i have been with my fiance for 3 years and he cant be honest with me, he refuses to accept any kind of blame if we argue and im always in the wrong, he thinks im trying to change him but im not, just trying to make him grow up an to stop thinking all females are the same. im not perfect but i believe im a good catch, yet he cant bring himself to treat me just that little bit special i feel i get treated no diffrent from his past girlfriends.He married his ex for all the wrong reasons yet he says he loves me but refuses to marry me, how am i suppose to feel about this,it hurts knowing im not good enough to be his wife.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2007): If your such a good catch and he`s the way he is,then why do you want to marry him? It sounds to me that you want to model him on your own view of how a man should be. If you met someone better,how long before you put pressure the on Mr new boyfriend to marry you?Why do you need to mention his past girlfriends? Is there an issue of jealousy here? They are nothing to do with you. You sound like you could constantly demanding attention and think everything revolves around you.One has to wonder if all your past relationships are the same story as this and you driven them away from you. One day you may be with someone who gives you a proper reason to moan.
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (27 February 2007):
 I think "anonymous" didn't mean LITERALLY. Yeah, he says it, but he really doesn't show it in any way, shape or form. That is why there isn't any mention of love here. If he doesn't treat you like he loves you (and it doesn't sound like he does), why would you even want to marry this guy in the first place?
You say that you're a good catch and I believe you. Go out there and find someone who sees you for the great catch you really are and treats you like gold.
xxIndia
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2007): sorry anon female your wrong i said he loves me if you read it properly
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2007): Why isnt he honest with you? It sounds like you dont really trust him. How did he treat his ex girlfriends? You cannot pressure him to marry you. Do you accept any blame when you argue? if you did then you wouldnt be arguing.Looking from the outside i think you should BOTH grow up.It sound like there`s a mismatch and your personalities clash.He just isnt what you want.This isnt a real problem,its nothing more than a complaint.There is not one mention of love here,forget marrying until you find your soulmate.Youre obviously not satisfied,and neither of you are good enough for each other.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2007): I would leave him id he makes you feel unhappy you should leave dont change yourself just for someone who thinks that you are always wrong or if you dont want to take that approach go to London or somewhere pretty far and phone him when you are there for about 3days make him realise what he is missing
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