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writes:My bf is so loving and affectionate when we are together. I notice a weird pattern when we are apart. With each day, he seems more distant and quiet. He tells me he loves me, but he doesn't act like he misses me the way i miss him. Sometimes he is even nasty and cranky. Sometimes he forgets to call me. I know he is stressed out at school and stuff, but how can he be so different. When I am back at school he is with me every night. When he sees me, he runs and picks me up and stares at me and acts all mushy. What gives? Reply to this Question |
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reader, Dipsydoodlenoodle  +, writes (18 February 2008):
You know what, I do the exact same thing. My boyfriend is the mushy one in our relationship and he said to me the other day "why do you never say you miss me, as I always do". I do miss him but I also feel a bit silly saying I miss you when its only a few days (if you know what I mean). I get quite cranky at him too, the longer time apart the more cranky - I really can't explain it. I think it's maybe just my (and your bf's) way of dealing with the situation. If you wanna talk about it just messsage me x
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2008): My guy isn't the best at expressing his feelings towards me and even tho he doesn't tell me (even tho I wish he would) I kno he cares for me by his actions and how he treats me. Guys I think in general dont like to show their affections to easily. He went to Australia for 2 months last year and I was heartbroken and missed him so much while he was away. Even tho we talked on the fone and was texting each other he never said he missed me when he was away. When he came home tho he said he was glad to be home and gave me a big hug and kiss!! That was him expressing his feelings towards me!!!
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reader, baby duck +, writes (13 February 2008):
 It might be a protective mechanism. He might be hurting so much when you are apart, that he has to hide in a hard shell.
I would be more concerned if it were the other way around, actually.
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (13 February 2008):
 Some people have one track minds. When they are at school there mind is at school, when they are driving they are driving, when they are with their other half they are with their other half. If he cares when hes around that shows he loves you, as for calling why dont you text him just to remind him
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (13 February 2008):
 Out of sight, out of mind. Some people cannot connect when they don't see them and they become busy with their work.
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