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writes: my bf is hot and i am not gorgeous but im smart and fashionable. in our university there are a lot of pretty girls and i just get too jealous even if theyre just doing projects together or sitting beside each other. there's this particular girl that im very jealous of, i dont know why, everytime i think of her i get really mad. she's not gorgeous too but i think she likes my bf and they're lab partners. i get too jealous, i end up crying even though i know they're not cheating on me. just simple thoughts of them doing things together make me cry.what can i do to stop being jealous of this girl? i know my bf loves me but he is only a man. and we're only 18. and when is it acceptable for me to get jealous and when shouldnt i be?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2006): Jealousy is a bad street to go down. It destroys so much within people. Try and stifle these feelings. We have all had them but it is how we all deal with them that matters. i know i used to get really hung up when i saw my fella talking to pretty females, yet it didn't matter if they were ugly. My insecurities were raging. My bloke is a real flirt, so i turned the tables on him. I get talking to the ones that he talks to, get my personality to come across and they often end up talking to me as he walks off. Some people are very gregarious and you cant stop that. They are that way when you meet them you cannot realistically stop them now because you feel jealous. Tell yourself that you are worth 100 of the people that he is chatting to. It is you that he is with and beauty comes from within. Some of these really gorgeous looking girls have very bad personalities.
I alway remember a saying that was on the tv - "You are a pretty girl but an ugly person". Remember that and you will be ok.
Take care
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reader, Jovial  + ♥, writes (8 December 2006):
 i think there is no room for jealousy in a relationship bcos jealousy only creates insecurities and tension between couples. u have a good thing going and ur jealousy will ruin it for u. u need to make peace within urself and believe that ur bf loves u for real regardless of how less gorgeous u look, my gez is that he noticed u dont have miss universe physique but in his eyes, heart and mind u are more than that, thats why he cant love u any less. there is something that he saw in u that he doesnt see in other girls u might be fashionable and smart but i dont think that what attracted him to u, usually that is part of what attracted him which means if u can loose them today he will still be inlove with u. so relax and start feeling comfortable in ur skin, build up ur self esteem and enjoy ur relationship. good luck.
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