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writes:whens the best time not to get pregnant??is it strate after your period or just before your period??i do not want to get pregnent!! im 18 hes 35 and hes married with two sons aged 1 and 6yrs old.hes never worn a condom so how do i go about asking him to use one???coz he mite say its better without one!how do i convince him to use one???
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2008): leave the married man alone you slut
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2008): if he wants his wife to know that he is fooling around then tell him not to use a condom. he will change his mind, and beg to use a condom!!! believe me it works!!! it happened to me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2008): you are crazy he will never leave his wife!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2008): you should so not be sleeping with a guy thats married with kids so therefore you should tell him........if he doesnt want to use one dont have sx its common snse i know that ppl make it sound easier than what it is but if he wants to sleep with you that bad he will def wrap it up
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2008): First of all..you should be sleeping with a married guy who's 35. and he definetly shouldnt be sleeping with you. but if you want him to use a condom..dont ask him, tell him. its your body...come on girl..put your foot down
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2007): you just tell them how you feel without them using one and say i would like you to use one...! if they can't do that then they have no respect for you..xmod note: please use spell check people. 'You' is not spelt Yhew! - Sheesh!might not mite, pregnant not pregnent, and straight not strate.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2007): my friend,try to understand.He is very selfish.You knowits very difficult to find someone who really loves u but its not impossible.As i m a male,i know the male persons.He is just using u my friend.For a girl her varginity is very important.Dont give this anybody who is not the right person to have it.Take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2007): hi my name is sheena im 18 and right now im in a relationship with a 30 year old man an he has a girlfriend that he lives with an, at first i thought he didnt love me but after being with him for 2 years i now kno he really loves me even though he has another woman n he doesnt have any children an we were tryin 2 get 1 4 the last 2 months me n his mother gets along n stuff n she even told him she wants him 2 get a child from me that she would buy cereal n things 4 it n i really do love him ,n he told me dat his woman told him that someone told her he was dealing with me an he say he doesnt care so i said 2 myself he doesnt care about her at all he does even want me 2 cum down by hwr house n i said no, dats how i kno he doesnt love her.n people waz tellin me dat i should not like him because he has a woman so i tell dem they dont even no what we have so i dont listen ,i just live my life 2 the fullest if he is 4 me heis if he isnt he isnt.i dont even kno what 2 tell u about ur realationship cause mine is way different from u so i agree with the other comments u should not b with dat married man tink about hurtin his wife n kids inmagine f dat waz u .but girl f he is 4 u he is 4 u but i dont tink he'll left his family.wish u luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2007): Why on earth would you sleep with a married man with children? He is obviously using you and does not care for you whatsoever..and instead of worrying about how not to get pregnant with his third child maybe you should just quit sleeping with him. that should solve the problem right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2007): Firstly why would you want to sleep with a married man? why would you want to have un protected sex and risk getting a sexual transmitted disease and a unwanted pregancy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2007): First of all if he is a married man you should be sleeping with him period.He is old enough to be your dad.Ewwwwww..But i can't tell you what to do, the advised would be that he should wear a condom on safer terms. He is just injoying himself and using you for the sex but then when you get pregnant he is simply going to deny you and then who is there to blame. If you respect yourself and he cares then he will wear one.If he doesn't want to wear one then he is selfish and clearly a waste of your time , which he is already a waste of your time, your young and still have plenty to look forward to unlike him being 35 and married with two children he already has a family of his own and he has lived up his years and well imagine how his wife would feel if she knew her husband is sleepying with a teenager that would ruin the family and those poor kids shouldn't have to go through that. Just really think about im pretty sure there at some hot guys your age who care about u and are willing to wear a condom.. because they don't want to have kids either until they are ready. Why not just stick to your age group they are on the same page as you and they arent married yet.. practice safe sex.
Love,Nataly
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2007): If you do sleep with him, force him to wear a condom, after all you have the vagina.oh, by the way...He's 35 and your 18.Ok, don't sleep with him, because he is just using you for sex. Do you really want to reduce yourself to nothing more but human plumbing? No, don't believe him he is neve leaving his wife.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2007): u mad stupid girl, how can u love a half old man who is 35yrs, married and having 2 kids? loving that man itself is a big mistake then how can u think about having sex with him? u will get a better guy in your life, through away that man from your life. gents won't be happy with a single woman, even though gents turn to 50yrs 75% of gents need young pure girl for having sex. that man will eat u and throw u off, no body will leave their family for a single night. think of your life and take a correct decision.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2007): u mad girl, loving a 35yrs half old man is itself wrong, how can you think about having sex with him? that too he is married and have two sons,u consider yourself as that man's wife can u accept if your husband do so. get away from him. u will get a guy who loves u truly. gents can do anything for having sex, they cant be without sex, even though a man gets 50 he cant be without sex. they need variety even in sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2007): you are so naive. he is just using you for sex. think how his poor wife would feel and his children if they found out. Imagine if you were his wife or his child and someone did this to you. Think before you act and go out and have fun. Enjoy being 18 because before you know it you will have lost the best days of your life and spent this with a loser who is married and still hasn't left his wife.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2006): I mean c'mon - what are you doing with a guy TWICE your age thats married with kids? THink about it - he was your age when you were a tiny baby??
There's probably loads of guys your own age at least and single who are interested in you?? You are only going to waste away the best days of your life & youth on this guy!! It happened a friend of mine, she was with a guy twice her age, married kids her age and then all of a sudden her dropped her, she had no one as her old friends were either going out with people or married and settled...
She regrets it to this day that she ever met this guy!!
At 18 you are only starting out in life... Don't ruin by getting pregnant for this guy... There's so much more out there!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2006): dont let this man fool you if you cant bring up sexual protection with him your not ready to risk having a baby think about your future hes 35 do you really see a future togethr how about being your self spending time with mates finding out who u are you will regret it if you fall pregnent he doesnt care enough to use protection so do you think he will care if you get pregnant hes married and using you he hasnt a care in the world have some dignity and live your life babies having babies isint a good idea youve still got plenty of time to grow there more fun things in the world then changing nappies as a teenager im telling you this as a teenager whos been used before best wishes
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reader, helpful girl  +, writes (26 September 2006):
 well you dont nesarry need to ask him to use 1 if you know he ent got any STD'S?! you could go on the pill in stead! but you are only 18 so you have forever to get pregnant so no rushing in to things, but it doesnt matter when the best time is you can get pregnant either way and not 1 of them can get you pregnant quicker than the other! but i will not comment on the age nor the kids! but i will say if he is married why are you with him now age isnt a concern its just a number, and kids some people like being a step mom, but marrage thats not very fare on the wife nor children! maybe before sleeping with him next time concider talking about him getting a divorse?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2006): If you are not comfertable enought to discuss contraception with this man then you are not ready to have a sexual relationship with him. There is no safe time to have unprotected sex, even if you don't fall pregnant you can still catch an STD. Just stop and think for one second, this man is married, he has a 1 year old child, don't think he's not still sleeping with his wife cause i can assure that he still is. He probably daily declares his love to her. You are just his little bit of fun on the side. I always say before you have sex with anyone think about if you fall pregnant to them would they stand by you and love you and help you, could you spend the rest of your life contected to this person? If the answer to that is no then DO NOT have sex with them. I'm sorry to be so harsh, but i have been on the other end where my husband was sleeping with another women. Please think about her as well, she is probably the innocent party here, she is the one who will be the hurt the most and all she did is stand by her husband and love him. Please respect yourself, he doesn't love you, you are probably one of many that he has on the go. Get the hell out of there now before it goes any further. Please if not for you then for his poor wife and children!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2006): The best way to not get pregnant is to not have sex! This man is thirty five years old. what are you doing? I know that love is blind, but come on. Open your eyes girl!! You are going to meet a guy that will treat you like a princess and you should save your body for him. I'll be thinking about you, be safe.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2006): I posted a reply to your other question. You are crazy to be sleeping with a married man, so much older than you, and your boss, to boot!
You are risking getting pregnant (possibly also a sexual disease, because who knows who else he has had sex with) - which, unless you have an abortion, or give the baby up for adoption - will tie up your life for the next 20 years, at least. Your social life will be ALMOST zero, you'll have to find baby-sitters while you are at work (expensive); pay for diapers, baby food, clothes, school expenses, pediatricians, doctors, on and on and on for years to come. You MIGHT eventually find a good, decent man who loves and respects you and who will marry you. But, be warned, not many men are going to want to hook up with a single mother! Yes, SOME might, but you better have a lot to offer as a girlfriend, wife and mother. A lot of men will think not twice, but three and four times before taking you on.
YES, I'M PAINTING A GRIM PICTURE FOR YOUR FUTURE!!!!
But its what you can reasonably expect IF, IF, IF, you allow yourself to get pregnant! Do not have any illusions that this man will leave his wife and children for you! Men like this usually don't.
I hope you will wake up and get rid of this man who is just using you, cheating on his wife, and showing neither you nor her any respect or consideration!!
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reader, maxsteel86 +, writes (24 September 2006):
 The best time not to get pregnant is while you still have plenty of things you need to do!:-P
I know what you mean and to be honest, neither of those times are particularly safe but if you really have to pick one, I'd say just before your period. Still pretty rsiky though!
Tell this guy that since he's using you for sex, the least he could do is have it on your terms! If you dont want to get pregnant or catch STDs, tell him to either wear a condom or find someone else to screw.
You're 18, why are you gettin involved with this guy? Surely you can find someone better right?
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reader, ariel +, writes (24 September 2006):
 You might as well have a threesome.He is having unprotected sex with you then having sex with his wife.You need to stop being walked all over by this man.Listen to yourself......"so how do i go about asking him to use one???coz he mite say its better without one!how do i convince him to use one???"
He is using you telling you what you want to hear,he does not wear condoms thus putting your life in danger.How many other girls has he had unprotected sex with.
If you want to have sex with men,be responible about it and go to your GP or family planning clinic and ask to be put on the pill and to give you a bag of condoms.
Just remember this man is married and will drop you like a hot brick when things become complicated because you are the bit on the side.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2006): stuff all this advice on wether or not he should be wearing a condom he is a married man with two children he is using you for sex sorry to say that, get out and enjoy your life while you are still young and stay well clear of married men they are more trouble than they are worth and generally so are the wives when they find out and they always do eventually
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reader, shania +, writes (24 September 2006):
 Some men say that wearing a condom is like eating chocolate with the paper on it...but my answer would be..No paper?..no chocolate! This man is married with 2 children so while he is using you for sex i suggest that you insist he wears a sheath,otherwise there will be another mouth to feed in 9 months time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2006): just tell your boyfriend before you have sex to wear a condom.The best time not to get pregent is when you are in school.
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reader, Toria +, writes (24 September 2006):
 Your 18, you don't want to get pregnant, so put your foot down and tell him to wear one and if he refuses then you refuse to sleep with him until he does wear one and stick by that until he gives in, you should be using one not only because you don't want to get pregnant but you also don't want to pick up anything else in the way of STD's either, he is already married and you are his mistress how many other mistresses are there? You don't know and you never will so it's very worrying that he is so freely having sex without a condom as it is.
Good luck :o)
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2006): You do have a say in the matter!!! You are not asking if you should have the relationship with him or not, so it is probably not my place to comment, but I am going to anyway. You are very young and possibly not seeing things all that clearly? Do you feel that he respects you? If yes, he would not refuse using a condom. That is simply looking after your well being and I am hoping that he cares enough about you to at least do that for you! Watch out girl - you might end up getting very very hurt. Think twice about this relationship and what is in it for you!
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